Those Who are No Longer with Us Sleep in Our Hearts

29 September, 2020
Even if you say the opposite, try not to repress your feelings. Cry when you need to, because it helps you relax and release your pain in a healthy way.

Los que ya no están con nosotros permanecen siempre en nuestro corazón. En ese rincón donde guardamos nuestras cosas más preciadas, descansarán eternamente.

Accepting the loss of someone we love, their death, is something that’s hard for everyone, and it forces you to go through a number of things that nothing in life has prepared you for.

Let’s talk about this process in today’s article.

Learning to say goodbye

How can you say goodbye to someone who, until just a moment ago, was by your side? Death has no rhyme or reason, and knows nothing of time.

Sometimes death claims people who haven’t had the chance to “fully live” their lives, like young people with hundreds of thousands of experiences still ahead of them. And yet, they are taken, leaving a void where they once had been.

Death should at least give you the opportunity to say goodbye. It should be like a train station where you can offer a farewell to your loved ones, have one last long and intense embrace, and say those words that are so often left unsaid only to become the source of regret and sorrow.

But because this is not how life is, you have to adapt and understand that first of all, no one lives forever. We’re only on this earth for a short period of time. That’s why you need to live every single day to the fullest.

Read: 4 tips to overcome sadness

Every night you should try to go to bed without anything unspoken, without anger and frustration that keeps you awake tossing and turning, and never forgetting to tell someone “I love you.”

Seize every moment you can to spend with your family, sharing happiness with them in every breath you take.

Now that we’ve clarified this essential aspect of life, let’s review some of the guidelines for coping with the loss of a loved one.

Grieving those who are no longer with us

No doubt you are familiar with the process of grieving and mourning, the emotional process that follows any loss, be it through a breakup or the death of a loved one.

It’s important to remember that coping with loss is a necessary step to managing your emotions. People who choose to “bury” themselves instantly in their normal routine without acknowledging their pain can wind up in serious emotional trouble down the road.

Let’s learn about the stages of grief:

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1. Denial

How can you accept that your partner or loved one is gone? How can you accept that you’ll never see your mother, sister, or soul mate again? Grief is a complicated process, and this first stage is based on the emotional impact of your loss, which you cannot fully comprehend.

2. Anger or even indifference

It’s important to point out that not everyone reacts the same way. Some people will be outwardly angry and full of rage, some will turn their anger inwards toward themselves, and others will direct their hatred at God. But there are also people who shut off their emotions, completely unable to cry, mourn, or “talk about it.”

3. Bargaining

This is the stage of grief where you begin to accept certain things. The accident, the disease…it happened and it doesn’t get you anywhere to be angry with the world. Now you’re able to talk about it with others, observe how they get through their days, and accept that indeed, that person is no longer with you.

4. Pain

Here the pain reappears in all its cruel strength, and because it is so raw you must express it, live it, and unburden yourself as often as you need. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you not to cry, because that’s what you need to do to channel your emotions in a healthy way.

5. Acceptance

Believe it or not, acceptance will come. You will come to accept the loss and the emptiness, and while you know that your life will never be the same it must go on. You will continue on your path without forgetting.

Remember that the people you love will live forever in your memory, and there’s no doubt that they’re happy to see you open your eyes and heart again to the world.

Keys to maintaining your strength and cherishing good memories

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  • Tenga en cuenta que si su proceso de duelo dura más de seis meses y aún se encuentra abrumado por la tristeza, o no ha recuperado su capacidad para reanudar sus actividades diarias, debe buscar ayuda profesional . Esto es muy importante.
  • Día a día, sus rutinas, familiares y amigos serán su mejor sistema de apoyo. Gradualmente, comenzará a doler un poco menos y nunca debe sentirse culpable por eso.

¿Por qué? Porque el recuerdo de esa persona siempre vivirá dentro de ti. Se vuelven parte de ti, de quién eres, tu cuerpo, tu mente y tu alma. No pasará nada malo cuando empieces a sonreír de nuevo, porque tu ser querido está detrás de cada una de esas sonrisas, y apreciarán el hecho de que hayas comenzado a encontrar la felicidad nuevamente.

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  • No se obsesione con los últimos días, semanas o meses, el recuerdo de la enfermedad, el accidente o el divorcio. Todos los días debes tratar de traer de vuelta los buenos recuerdos, el amor que compartiste, cada palabra amable y sincera… en otras palabras, enfócate en las emociones positivas.
  • La vida es un viaje y cada momento cuenta. Lo que sucede en el pasado crea quién eres hoy, por lo que esa persona se convierte en parte de la esencia de tu vida. Los llevas contigo ahora y lo harás para siempre. Aprende a vivir tu vida de nuevo con esperanza, porque todo el amor que has sentido en el pasado también te hace quien eres ahora …

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