The Keys to Maintaining a Caring Relationship

15 February, 2020
Time and routine often deteriorate relationships. So, what can you do to maintain a caring relationship? Today, we're going to share some keys to a healthy and lasting love life.
 

Love is like a flower, and it’s important to nurture it. Today, we’d like to share the keys to a caring relationship. Studies indicate that there are at least four crucial keys to a loving, caring relationship. 

All relationships change

Everything is beautiful at the beginning of a relationship. However, unfortunately, it’s common for this feeling to decline over time. That’s when many relationships even end.

Studies indicate that a romantic relationship is one of the most significant and intense of our lives, only second to that of our blood relations. It significantly impacts our well-being – for better or worse.  So, how can we maintain a caring relationship? Is it possible to have one that’s healthy and doesn’t deteriorate?

Research indicates there are four essential components in a caring relationship: commitment, romance, love, and intimacy. But in addition to these elements, there are other factors you should pay attention to maintain it. Check them out!

The keys to a caring relationship

1. Self-love

First, it’s crucial to love ourselves to be able to love others. Thus, loving ourselves to become better people is a must.

In fact, most conflicts in a relationship happen due to our own shortcomings. When this happens, one of us usually begins to demand from our significant others what only us can give ourselves. It’s crucial to tear down these limiting ideas, which are rooted in romantic myths. This is because they keep us from truly loving. For instance, there’s the belief of a better-half that will complete.

 

This is entirely false. We were born complete, and no partner can complete us.

A woman looking at herself in the mirror
To have a healthy relationship, we must put aside our limiting romantic thoughts. We must learn to love ourselves before we can love another person.

2. Owning our mistakes

Being able to improve is crucial. Recognizing and owning your mistakes and being willing to change is key to a healthy relationship. After all, there’s always something we can improve. Plus, we can even ask for help if we feel we can’t do it alone.

Don’t be afraid to consult a psychologist, as these professionals can help you find the areas in your life that you could work on to become a healthier, happier, and better person. It’s much easier to have a healthy relationship when you learn to properly manage your thoughts and emotions.

Read also: Five Tips to Make Your Relationship Last

3. Building intimacy

This isn’t only about sexuality. Having a space for and building intimacy allows us to mutually relate our dreams, express our fears, and talk about our illusions, among others. Doing so will get us closer to our significant other.

4. Downplaying the little things

Sometimes, we unleash catastrophes out of nothing. Thus, the best antidote to dissolve petty arguments is to laugh and focus on what truly matters.

 
A happy couple
It’s important to downplay the small things that create discomfort in a relationship. Dialogue and thinking about common projects will help overcome most difficulties.

5. Creating common projects

Working together towards a common goal strengthens a relationship. That is, it makes us look in the same direction without neglecting each other’s dreams. Some common projects can range from taking a trip, remodeling our home and even starting a business.

6. Get away

Taking some time off just to enjoy romance can help a relationship a lot. So, escape once in a while and get away from your routine to once again connect with your lover. Do this just because and without any distracting elements.

Many couples wait for a special day to get away and pay attention to each other, but you don’t have to. Don’t wait for a birthday or an anniversary to pack your bags and go on an adventure.

Be sure to visit: How to Keep the Passion Alive in a Relationship

7. Dialogue is a must for a caring relationship

Some couples only communicate when they have serious problems to deal with. However, dialogue is a must at all times. Take at least ten minutes every day to talk so you can remember why and how much you love each other. Also, work on your active listening skills.

Two people lovingly looking at each other
Dialogue and active listening are decisive to have a good relationship with your partner. It’s important to practice it, even when there are no problems involved.
 

8. Attention to details

Details reinforce a relationship daily, whether it be a romantic note, a massage, a or a surprise dinner, among others. These sorts of details are even better when your lover doesn’t expect them. After all, who doesn’t like surprises?!

9. A caring relationship is about mutual respect

Respect is the main component of any type of relationship. However, we must respect ourselves as much as we respect our significant others. This is because we feel much better when we do so. Thus, respect is the first step towards happiness.

Follow the above guidelines and you’ll have a caring relationship. It’s never too late to begin to love, truly and deeply.

 
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