You should never forget that you are more than just your physical appearance. What others see is just the tip of the iceberg.
The best age is your current age, not younger or older. When we’re really young, we can’t wait to be independent. We think those years store our dreams, our perfect loves and the best adventures.
Later, as you walk the path of your life, it seems like a lot of people don’t end up piecing together that the years past have formed who they are, who they see in the mirror, and all the candles that keep getting added to the birthday cakes.
This isn’t right. Not accepting your age is related to not having the “life you want”, and also with not feeling inner balance for yourself. It’s dangerous.
Every year lived means more time with the people you love, it’s more opportunities to grow as a person and to strengthen bonds with the people that surround you.
It’s never too late to reach new heights, and it’s never too soon to start the adventures you have in mind. We hope you think about this.
And you…how old are you?
Every now and then you’ll hear someone say something like “I just don’t recognize myself in the mirror, I feel younger inside.” Is that a bad thing? Not at all. In some ways, it’s normal and even a good thing, because one thing that should never grow old is your heart.
I am as old as the years I have lived, my face tells the tale, my eyes tell my story. But inside I fight every day to keep my spirit young, so that it never tires of experiencing life or of bringing excitement into everything I do.
The tireless search for youth
Diana de Poitiers’ story of French King Henry II’s lover tells how she was obsessed, for a large part of her life, with avoiding age. She couldn’t stand how her face changed, how her hair turned gray, and how she fell out of favor with her king, who supported her.
She searched for thousands of formulas and paid large sums of money to several alchemists. We know that she reached 66 years of age, looking fragile, thin and sickly. She may have looked much younger than she truly was, but she achieved it through intense suffering.
A later analysis of her bones showed that Diana de Poitiers spent half of her life eating gold to prevent aging. Was this slow, anemic intoxication worth it? We’ll never know, but it seems like today this same search continues to repeat itself.
- The obsessive search for lost youth causes anxiety and frustration.
- Currently, physical appearance and wanting to prevent the passage of time is very over-rated.
- In truth, if there is anything that is truly captivating and enchanting, it is the person that accepts his/her age and lives life intensely. These people live with a happiness that people in their 20’s and 30’s can’t even understand, or achieve.
True self-esteem, the real age
It’s as simple as this: people that feel good about themselves, about what they have, about what they’ve achieved and about who they are, will feel satisfied with their own age. You might think we’re talking simply about accepting your face and body, but this goes beyond just your physical appearance.
You might go through periods of disappointment, of personal failures. The bad times might make you feel defenseless. Oftentimes this discomfort causes people to dislike what they see in the mirror.
There’s nothing more devastating than depression. These are vital moments of internal crisis. You “break” inside, and you find yourself affected on all levels, especially existentially.
- Your self-esteem, your love for yourself, is your true engine that pushes you forward. It also brings internal and external balance.
- Self-esteem needs to be worked on every moment of every day. You need to remember that you have the right to experience bad times in order to “embrace your demons.”
- Sometimes you need to hit rock bottom in order to get up. This doesn’t make you a weak person, but men and women that have learned from their experiences. Accepting it all allows you to become whole, and to accept your age.
I don’t want to be any other age. I feel good about how old I am, not younger, not older, because my dreams have been fulfilled. Because every day that I live forms part of who I am. I like what I see and I like who I am.
I accept my age because I know that I have a lot left to do. Every day I pick new projects that fill me with excitement. I look back and I know that I have matured, and everything that I have lived has been worth it, good or bad.
I accept my age because I accept myself, and there’s no greater happiness than moving forward peacefully, knowing that I am safe and satisfied by every stone I have picked up, and by every obstacle I have overcome.