Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, you’ll never be enough? That you’ll never make the mark no matter what? Well, if this is you, you’re not alone.
There are too many of us that feel like this too often.
Often, what happens is that we let ourselves get carried away by expectations that we’ve told ourselves we have to meet. We also try to reach the goals that others have set for us but that we don’t find motivating.
If you work towards them, you may end up satisfying others. However, you’ll leave yourself feeling empty, worn out, or helpless.
You might feel like you’re not enough. This may be physically -with all those models with perfect bodies – or academically or professionally. Or maybe it has to do with your family expecting you to fit into a box that you can’t or don’t want to fit into.
This isn’t healthy. In this article, we’ll offer you some tips to get out of this slump you find yourself in.
1. Remember that everyone is unique
This is a great first step. When you acknowledge that everyone is different, you understand that it doesn’t make any sense to try to be anyone else.
You are unique. While you may have weak areas, you also have many strengths that make you who you are.
When you understand that nobody is just like you, you’ll start to see the good parts of yourself and you’ll realize that comparing yourself to others is useless.
This will also help you appreciate other people without criticizing their differences. With a little luck, your worldview could change completely.
Appreciate yourself. Stop feeling like you’re not enough, and start seeing yourself for the unique being you are.
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2. You choose your own goals
We often let ourselves go along with the flow and believe what society tells us:
- If you’re overweight, it’s better to be thin like a model.
- You aren’t beautiful if your face and body isn’t like that of an actress.
- If you don’t have money or a big house, you’re not successful.
It shouldn’t be like this. Success is measured differently for each individual and you shouldn’t measure yours against the expectations of others.
If you’re overweight, your goal shouldn’t be to look like a runway model, but rather to get to a healthy weight.
And you don’t need tons of money to be a successful person. Maybe you’ll see that learning and trying to be a better person every day is more than enough to feel good about yourself.
Remember that each goal is as unique as the one who sets it, so don’t let others set them for you.
3. Effort isn’t the same as suffering
Something that happens a lot is that you set yourself a goal, work towards it, and you think the suffering it entails is normal. But it isn’t.
If what you’re working towards is hurting you and making you feel like you’re not enough, you’d better figure out if this is the road you really want to go down.
While all roads lead to Rome, you have to decide what your Rome is. In other words, if you feel stuck in this road or if that goal isn’t what you hoped for, you might want to stop.
Figure out if these feelings are just discouragement or if it’s because the goal isn’t what you expected.
If it’s not what you expected, don’t feel bad. It’s never too late to start something new.
If you’re on the wrong road, change your route. You are the owner of your life and the only one that has to like it is you.
4. You’re perfect
Many times when you feel like you’re not enough, it comes with the idea that if you don’t do something perfectly, you’re a failure.
You must remember that you’re perfect just by being you. When you want to reach perfection, you’re tying to be someone you’re not and it will be a long, tortuous journey.
Being perfect at everything isn’t natural and won’t make you happy. You should be proud of everything you’ve done, even your mistakes.
After all, they taught you things that will make you a better person in the rest of your life.
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5. Stop feeling like you’re not enough
Finally, this is the most important and complex step, since you having to understand that stopping feeling like you’re not enough is something that only you can do.
Overall, Happiness and acceptance is something that happens from the inside out.
When you start to appreciate the road you’ve taken that’s gotten you where you are today. You’ll see how much you’ve grown and all that you’ve overcome.
Then, you’ll discover that you’re not just enough; you’re a winner.