A caring touch is far more than a gesture, more than the contact of skin to skin. A caress is its own kind of language that gives you a sense of physical and emotional well being. To put it more simply: a caress can help nurture your emotions.
Some people don’t practice this and others are afraid to. But while it might seem surprising, both the failure to do so or the unwillingness to take emotional communication that extra step can cause suffering and be a glaring absence in your life.
Everyone needs a caring touch every day. It’s like breathing – it strengthens the bond between you and the people you love, making you feel important. That’s why today we want to talk more about this subject.
A caress is like food for your emotional well beingEvery living creature needs physical contact to have a sense of belonging in their group, their family. If you have pets at home you’ve probably noticed how grateful they are for your touch. They seek it not just as a reward, but as a way to connect with you.
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Both humans and many other groups of animals in nature need this bond with which to obtain various senses of security and strength, in addition to membership in the group of individuals that they consider significant.
Let’s look in more detail
Caring touches provide you with recognition
The search for recognition is not a egotistical one. Believe it or not, being recognized is a vital human need. While yes, it’s important to have good self-esteem and to love yourself, you can’t ignore the fact that you are a social creature.
Therefore, being recognized is a basic need.
- Every child when it comes into the world needs these kinds of bonds and forms initial attachments based on recognition.
- Caresses, hugs, and kisses promote development of brain tissue in a baby: these are all emotionally charged stimuli that provide a sense of safety and well being.
- Any positive emotion helps happiness grow.
- When you’re grown, caresses continue to be an important part of your everyday relationships with partners and children.
- A couple who doesn’t touch each other, doesn’t seek physical contact outside the bedroom, can wind up experiencing serious shortcomings.
Everyone needs to be held and caressed without any particular reason or purpose.
A gesture is more powerful than words
Sometimes it just isn’t enough to be told that someone understands you, they support you, they’re with you. Sometimes relationships fall into routine and the members of a couple feel distant from one another, or worse, you start taking things for granted.
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- Affection, either between partners or adults and their children, should never be taken for granted. On the contrary, it needs to be demonstrated every single day and even more so during moments of difficulty.
- In difficult times, words aren’t always effective. That’s where the value of a caring touch comes in – these small, nonverbal cues have a much greater emotional impact.
- Saying “I’m sorry,” “forgive me,” or “I’m here whenever you need me” can also be accompanied by a sincere hug or knowing look that offers additional comfort, love, and support.
Types of caresses you should know
There’s no single type of caring touch or caress. Psychologists tell us that there are good touches and also negative ones.
Let’s see how many different kinds there area:
- There are caresses that can occur without physical contact: a compliment, praise, and the right word when it’s needed can have the same impact as a touch.
- Negative touches are derived from toxic behavior
- Talking to someone out of contempt or sarcasm, ignoring them, or belittling them in public is considered at the psychological level as “negative touches” that attack the self-esteem.
- A caress can also produce positive and negative emotions. There are some touches that rather than offering a feeling of security, convey coldness or a false sense of caring, which can also be very painful.
- True caresses must be genuine and sincere, something felt by both the giver and the recipient.
- There are also conditional and unconditional caresses.
- By conditional we mean that someone may show affection through touch because they expect to receive something in return.
- An unconditional caress is offered freely without the expectation of anything in return. It’s a genuine gesture of recognition and affection.
Caresses must be genuine and full of sincerity, something that should be felt by whoever gives and who receives.
Start today and practice this exercise with your children or your partner. A loving caress when its least expected has the power of the entire universe to relieve stress and strengthen your bond.