Some People Inspire You, Others Wear You Out

· January 10, 2017
Try to surround yourself with people who inspire you. If you find yourself with people who wear you out, find a way to recharge yourself afterward.

Our mind is very influenced by our interactions. This is especially true of those interactions we have every day. There are people who inspire us and put us in a good mood. They give us energy and positivity.

However, there are also people who cause all sorts of negative emotions. This may happen without them noticing. They wear us out.

This tiredness doesn’t have anything to do with physical work. It isn’t like carrying heavy loads or running a marathon. We are talking about a mental exhaustion.

There is something that both neurology and psychology tell us that you should know: our brains function differently if we are extroverts than they do if we are introverts.

An introverted brain, for example, needs moments of solitude. These allow them to “recharge their batteries.”

To be exposed to many hours of social interaction is hard for them. They can struggle if they are with someone who is very talkative, inquisitive, critical, or obsessive. This may even start to overwhelm them mentally.

We all have our own levels of being social. However, there are some who have their own sparkle and bring happiness to those around them.

But on the other hand, there are those who see a problem with every solution. Those who stir up trouble even though the day started off calmly.

In this article, we will take a look at these realities. After all, they happen to us every day!

The inspirational person

Among our circle of friends and family, we all have someone who inspires us. They are those people who are real treasures. This is because they find some way to build us up every day.

These people are like landmarks in our lives. They give us support. They also give us direction since they can help us to see the forest for the trees.

Their wisdom doesn’t come from books. It comes from their common sense. They have gained this wisdom through a reflective, intuitive, and intelligent mind.

Let’s take a look at more characteristics they have.

The people that inspire others, the people we don’t take into account


There are friends that look us in the eyes and know what we are thinking. They are able to read between the lines. They don’t need more than to look at us to know when we need help. This support and warmth help to give us strength.

  • These capacities come from the right hemisphere of the brain. That area is more reflexive, creative, and observant than the left side of the brain. It connects everything with an emotional world.
  • The inspirational person understands reciprocity. They understand the importance of both giving and receiving. They also understand the importance of making choices where everyone can win.
  • At the same time, they don’t look like some other people. They aren’t arrogant. These people don’t need to show that they know more than others.

Those who inspire don’t harass. Instead, they let things be. They give us an example to follow. At the same time, they respect our choices, thoughts, and opinions.

The person who wears us down

Like we said at the beginning we all have a threshold of tolerance for social interactions.

Those who are more extroverted aren’t worn down as much by chatty Cathies, jokers, or overall energetic people. On the other hand, those whose brain works on a more relaxed level need to be careful. Some of those energetic people can wear introverts down.

Now, there is something we can all agree on. Some people are always unpleasant to be around. They can either be psychologically adverse or physically unkempt.

These are some of the characteristics they might have:

  • They are negative people.
  • They only look for problems, freely giving out critiques. They always see the glass as half empty.
  • Besides being negative, they are convinced that the world is against them. This kind of person has no respect for others.
  • They don’t give respect because they only think about themselves. They can’t see beyond their own nose. Their first and last thought is to look out for number one.

It isn’t easy to live with this kind of person. They have closed minds. What’s worse, they are incapable of using their hearts to understand the world around them.

You can find people like this everywhere. They can be in your family or at your workplace. Since they are so common, we want to give you some ideas for dealing with negative characteristics you may encounter.

How to survive the people who wear us down.

Don’t try to run from them. After all, we all have someone like that in our families. They think it’s normal to talk like they do.

It can be the same with a friend or partner who exhausts us with the way they talk.

  • It is important to put distance between the two of you. Be respectful, but firm.
  • They can hang on to a grudge or like to be critical of others, and love to talk about it. Let them know that these conversations don’t interest you.
  • Don’t reject them and don’t be condescending.
  • Put a respectful distance between you. Make it clear that you understand and respect them. But, your way of thinking and living are not the same.
  • If you have to spend lots of time with people like this, try to talk and listen as little as possible. Also, try to imagine a nice relaxing scene where you can get away from them.

Later, when you are far from them, relax. Don’t give them a place in your mind. Try to find something positive to do.

Images courtesy of Marie Desbons