Inspirational People and Those Who Wear You Out

Try to surround yourself with people who inspire you. If you find yourself with people who wear you out, find a way to recharge yourself afterward.
Inspirational People and Those Who Wear You Out

Last update: 14 February, 2019

Our mind is very influenced by our interaction with other people, especially when that interaction is every day. There are inspirational people who put us in a good mood. They give us energy and positivity.

However, there are also people who cause all sorts of negative emotions. This may happen without them even noticing, and they just wear us out.

This tiredness doesn’t have anything to do with physical work. It isn’t like carrying heavy loads or running a marathon. We are talking about a mental exhaustion.

There is something that both neurologists and psychologists tell us. Our brains function differently if we are extroverts than if we are introverts.

An introverted brain, for example, needs moments of solitude. These allow them to “recharge their batteries.”

To be exposed to many hours of social interaction is hard for them. They can struggle if they are with someone who is very talkative, inquisitive, critical, or obsessive. This may even start to overwhelm them mentally.

We all have our own levels of being social. However, there are some who have their own sparkle and bring happiness to those around them.

But, on the other hand, there are those who see a problem with every solution. Those who stir up trouble even though the day started off calmly.

In this article, we will take a look at these realities. After all, they happen to us every day!

Inspirational people

Among our circle of friends and family, we all have inspirational people. They are people who are real treasures, and always find some way to build us up every day.

Inspirational people are like landmarks in our lives. They give us true support. They also give us direction because they can help us see the forest for the trees.

Their wisdom doesn’t come from books. It comes from their common sense. They have gained this wisdom through a reflective, intuitive, and intelligent mind.

Let’s take a look at more of their characteristics.

Inspirational people, the ones we don’t take into account

A woman hanging out socks.

Inspirational people are friends that look us in the eyes and know what we are thinking. They are able to read between the lines. They only need to look at us to know when we need help. This support and warmth help to give us strength.

  • These capacities come from the right hemisphere of the brain. That area is more reflexive, creative, and observant than the left side of the brain. It connects everything with an emotional world.
  • The inspirational person understands reciprocity. They understand the importance of both giving and receiving. They also understand the importance of making choices where everyone can win.
  • At the same time, they’re not like some other people. They aren’t arrogant. These people don’t need to show that they know more than others.

Those who inspire don’t harass. Instead, they let things be. They give us an example to follow. At the same time, they respect our choices, thoughts, and opinions.

The person who wears us down

Like we said at the beginning we all have a threshold of tolerance in our social interactions.

Those who are more extroverted aren’t worn down as much by chatterboxes, jokers, or overall energetic people. On the other hand, those whose brain works on a more relaxed level need to be careful. Some of those energetic people can wear introverts down.

Now, there is something we can all agree on. Some people are always unpleasant to be around. They can either be psychologically annoying or physically unkempt.

These are some of the characteristics they might have:

  • They are negative people.
  • They only look for problems, freely giving out criticism, and always see the glass as half empty.
  • Besides being negative, they are convinced that the world is against them. This kind of person has no respect for others.
  • They don’t give respect because they only think about themselves. They can’t see beyond their own nose. Their first and last thought is to look out for number one.
Three ladies drinking coffee together.

It isn’t easy to live with this kind of person. They have closed minds. What’s worse, they are incapable of using their hearts to understand the world around them.

You can find people like this everywhere. They may be in your family or at your workplace. Since they are so common, we want to give you some ideas for dealing with negative characteristics you may encounter.

How to survive the people who wear us down

Don’t try to run from them. After all, we all have someone like that in our families. They think it’s normal to talk like they do.

It may be the same with a friend or a partner who exhausts us with the way they talk.

  • It is important to keep distance between the two of you. Be respectful, but firm.
  • They may hang on to a grudge, or they may be critical of others, and love to talk about it. Let them know that these conversations don’t interest you.
  • Don’t reject them and don’t be condescending.
  • Make it clear that you understand and respect them. But that your way of thinking and living are not the same.
  • If you have to spend lots of time with people like this, try to talk and listen as little as possible. Also, try to imagine a nice relaxing scene where you can get away from them.

Later, when you are far away from them, relax. Don’t give them a place in your mind. Try to find something positive to do.

Images courtesy of Marie Desbons

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