To Raise Respectful Kids, You Must Give Them Respect

· February 27, 2019
Children take cues according to what they see their parents doing. Therefore, in order to raise respectful kids, you must be consistent in your own actions and teach them to appreciate the value of respect.

To give the world respectful kids, it’s important that they are respected during their childhood. Those early years of life mark their growth as a person. Here’s how to raise respectful kids by giving them respect during childhood.

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Educating your children is an act of responsibility and the most important job you’ll undertake. You can’t become obsessed with it or strive to be the most perfect parent. Sometimes, you just need to follow your own heart.

Regarding different education and upbringing styles, parents are free to take on the method they find most appropriate, according to their values.

However, an aspect you can never neglect is the happiness of your children.

Additionally, remember that adults are responsible for teaching kids to build a better, nobler world.

Below are some tips on how to raise conscious and respectful kids.

Raising Loving and Respectful Kids

When a child comes into the world you don’t know very much about them yet. Additionally, you’re not going to learn everything in just a few months or years as they begin to develop their character. Furthermore, perhaps they won’t respond perfectly to what you try to instill as a parent.

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Every child will develop their own tastes, their own identity, and have their own passions and concerns. Children are not copies of their parents, nor is it your obligation to determine everything that they should think or feel.

Your job is to accompany them in that process of growth, with love and respect. If you want respectful kids, there’s no better way than to raise children who are respected, loved, and valued.

Drawing of mother father and baby raising respectful kids

Respect the natural growth of your children

During the ’90s, the topic of early stimulation became very important. It’s something undoubtedly wonderful and a key strategy for allowing kids who have developmental problems to improve in some way.

  • Now, don’t confuse the term early stimulation with “acceleration.” There are some mothers who are obsessed with having their children be proficient readers when they’re four years old.
  • There are families who teach their children to solve math problems at five years old when they’ve already started studying two foreign languages and also going to ballet class, music class, and playing soccer.
  • Sometimes acceleration can bring stressed children into the world. Stress, anxiety, and the pressure to perform according to certain expectations will never result in respectful kids.
  • Let your children grow with the “slow fire of love.” Let them play, discover the world before them, take their first steps, run, fall down, and get back up again.

All these actions will respect the growth of your children. When they feel loved and respected, they will also be respectful.

Illustration of two respectful kids sitting under tree

Understand their feelings and help them channel their emotions

When you raise your voice to your children, telling them, “You’re too old to cry,” or “I don’t have time for your nonsense, I’m tired,” you forever alter their emotional world.

  • Respectful education is carried out in a way that allows them to channel their emotional world, to understand their anger, fear, and anxiety…
  • Respect for one’s emotions is an exercise in health and growth for which your children will always be thankful.
  • If they feel like they are being heard and they see that every word they say is addressed, they will become secure and mature adults.

Respectful education doesn’t mean you don’t set any boundaries for your kids. In fact, setting limits is necessary. Just like the rest of society sets yours, your young ones must be capable of accepting certain rules and responsibilities.

Teaching them rights and responsibilities is also a form of respect in the education of a child. It allows them to manage their frustration and understand what is expected of them at all times.

In addition, a child who doesn’t know what his limits are will try to cross them every day. As a result, this will lead to negative outcomes and leaving you feeling frustrated and lost.

Respectful kids, on the other hand, will know how to respect themselves.

Illustration of sad girl and cat staring out window respectful kids

Parenting is All About Respect

As you can see, this kind of respectful parenting is something that many families practice every day. In fact, they do so because they understand that love and respect are invisible bonds. Additionally, these bonds will help guide their children’s development and help them raise respectful kids.

Children need to be able to walk safely but feel free to keep their own pace, knowing what they can and cannot do.

Be the best role model for your children. Moreover, remember that right now they’re the “young students” of life and they learn more by example than by words.

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  • Vincent, C. (2012). Parenting: Responsibilities, Risks and Respect. Institute of Education-London. 20 Bedford Way, London, WC1H 0AL, UK.