How to Practice Rimming, or the “Black Kiss”

To avoid infections, it’s extremely important to pay attention to hygiene both before and after practicing the “black kiss,” and definitely before moving onto other areas.
How to Practice Rimming, or the “Black Kiss”

Last update: 30 May, 2022

The “black kiss” or rimming, also known as anilingus, is the stimulation of the anus with the tongue and the mouth. It’s a sexual practice that has been taboo for years, but these days many people are daring to talk about it more openly.

Although some people consider it “disgusting” or “unhygienic”, the fact is that it is one of the sensitive erogenous zones. For this reason, some couples really enjoy it.

What does it consist of? How can you do it safely? In this article, we’ll share detailed information to answer these questions.

What is the black kiss?

The “black kiss” is also known as the “hummingbird kiss” in Spanish.

Scientifically called anilingus, rimming refers to any form of oral sex with the anus. It’s a type of anal stimulation with the tongue and mouth through various techniques.

When the lips or the tongue pass across the outside of the anus, it is called a “black kiss.”

For religious and moral reasons, the practice has been considered a great taboo for heterosexuals. In fact, for longer than you might think, it was an act exclusively for homosexuals.

However, it’s now known that everyone can do it and that it can be very stimulating for achieving orgasms, whether male or female.

How to give a “black kiss,” or rimming

The 69 position, or on all fours, are the favorites for practicing any form of anal oral sex. However, you can change these however you might prefer!

So that it’s not uncomfortable, the best is that you’ve both agreed to it and that it’s not a surprise during sex. If at any point one of you doesn’t want to do it, it’s best to stop.

How to do it

  • Begin by caressing your partner’s buttocks with masturbation. Massage the area and play with their buttocks to stimulate them.
  • Then, move to the genitals and gradually move your hand across the perineum. Once there, start stimulating the anus with your middle finger or tongue, moving in circles.
  • Use your tongue to massage the perineum and use your mouth to suck. Try out different speeds, pressures, and movements to know what most excites your partner.
  • If you want the experience to be even more pleasurable, alternate between rimming and masturbation or stimulating other areas of the body.

Note: Avoid moving on from the black kiss to oral sex without first washing your mouth. Ignoring this step could cause urinary infections.
Do you want to know more? See: 8 Recommendations to Prevent Urinary Tract Infections

What are the risks of the black kiss?

As can happen with any other sexual practice, this type of oral sex carries certain risks regarding sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and other types of bacterial or viral infection.

The most common risks include:

  • Hepatitis A, B, and C
  • Intestinal worms
  • Human papilloma virus (HPV)
  • Gonorrhea
  • HIV/Aids
  • Urinary infections

Of course, how high or low these risks are depends on the hygiene measures you take, and how careful you and your partner are. It’s recommended that you only do this with one partner, and preferably in a stable relationship.

Similarly, it’s best to use protection, be it by cutting a condom to modify it, or by acquiring special oral protection which is sold in erotic shops.

Advice for enjoying rimming, or the black kiss, in a safe way

As well as the protection measures that we’ve already mentioned, it’s essential to bear other steps in mind which can help you enjoy rimming safely and comfortably.

  • Wash your anus and other intimate areas well with plenty of water. You can even take a bath together to start the connection as a couple. Make sure there is no residue.
  • Avoid using perfumed soaps because they can irritate the anal mucosa.
  • Keep the area free of hair to stay comfortable and to help keep the area clean.
  • Make sure that you wash your mouth out well before moving to a different part of the body (such as your partner’s genitals or mouth).

Final recommendation

Rimming is something that not everyone finds pleasant. Even so, there are those who decide to try it at some point in their lives.

Don’t just get carried away by pleasure: be well informed and implement certain preventive measures to avoid health problems of any kind.

Before engaging in it, it is advisable to consult with your partner and proceed to do it safely.


This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.