Kindness is something that you choose to practice. It’s easy to say that being good and noble is something that comes straight from the heart, but in reality it also has a lot to do with how you respond to difficult or negative situations.
For example, everyone has been through times of hardship and anguish when it would have been easier to react with selfishness, cruelty, or even pride.
But nevertheless, you still chose to voluntarily practice kindness.
Being a good person doesn’t mean you’re innocent or that you let other people manipulate you at will. A noble spirit is one that is true to its values. For every negative act, you prefer to respond with kindness.
There are some curious nuances about this personality type that are worth delving into in more detail.
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Kindness always makes you question some of your actions
Rick Hanson is a well known neuropsychologist at the University of Berkeley (California) who has written fascinating books like Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom.
According to his experiences studying human kindness and happiness, noble-hearted people tend to continuously question their actions.
- They fear they haven’t been understood, worry about whether they were any help at all, or wonder if the impact of their words or actions will be positive after all.
- Sometimes people who have noble hearts are obsessed with mistakes that they made in the past with others.
- They question many of the things that they do because they have very high standards for themselves that can sometimes cause suffering.
According to Dr. Hanson, while other people usually regard the noble hearted as icons in their lives thanks to their authenticity and affection, even the noblest personalities tend to think that they could always “do more.”
That’s why it’s important to take a minute to reflect on this subject.
In times of anger…stay calm
Good people also get angry, without a doubt. They too feel rage. This is because we’re all only human and are subject to the effects of acts of injustice and selfishness.
- Something that you need to consider about goodness, however, is that in times of anger or fury it’s best to try to control your emotions as much as possible.
- Kindhearted people, because they tend to be “overachievers,” evaluate the pros and cons of the situation and think about the consequences before taking certain actions. They seek, above all, the common good – never contempt or aggression.
- Good people believe in justice, not in a punitive sense, but rather democratic and constructive. That’s why in times of anger they always keep calm and act in a way that will be beneficial for everyone.
Kindness isn’t what you think: it’s a way to find harmony in life
The central axles of kindness are respect, reciprocity, and the promotion of the common good. Kind people seek balance and inner peace, trying to unite the values that they themselves have with the actions that they take.
“Practicing random acts of kindness” isn’t always easy because sometimes it’s hard to see the good in other people. Nevertheless, you should always choose to stay on the positive side of the equation and be consistent with yourself.
This is how you find harmony, both inner and outer.
Being good requires recognizing it
Let’s get back to the idea from the beginning posed by Dr. Hanson: good people don’t often see themselves as such because they question so many of the things they do, occasionally dwelling on the mistakes they made in the past.
That’s why it’s worth thinking about the following simple ideas:
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You have strong principles and values that define all of your actions. Every time you do something nice for someone, take a moment to think about what you did.
- For example, a friend of yours is having problems with their partner or at home. They say they’d like to spend a few days with you to think, relax, and make some decisions.
- After that time they thank you for your support and tell you how important you are in their life. You symbolize a pillar of strength, and without that they don’t know what they would have done.
Think about this and enjoy that bond because at the end of the day, this is what matters: closer ties to your friends and neighbors and always showing the best side of yourself to promote the common good.
Practicing random acts of kindness costs you nothing, but it’s worth a lot.