When Your Partner Wants to End Your Relationship, but You Don't

Sometimes, relationships end even though we're not prepared for such a hard blow. With that in mind, we'll show you a series of signs and guidelines to help you face this painful process.
When Your Partner Wants to End Your Relationship, but You Don't

Last update: 15 May, 2021

For some time now, one thought’s been nagging you constantly: “My partner wants to end the relationship”. You sense it, you’ve seen signs, and you’re pretty sure it’s going to happen. Your partner doesn’t behave the same way anymore, they don’t come around as much, and they even seem to be annoyed and bored at times.

But, unfortunately, you’re not ready yet. It’s likely that, on your side, feelings still exist and you want to fight for the relationship. You may even be desperate and suffering because of what’s going to happen.

When love’s no longer reciprocated, it’s common to feel anxious and upset and not know how to act. Suddenly, all expectations and desires collapse. Therefore, we’re going to help you identify the signs that can show if your assumptions are accurate or if, on the contrary, you’re mistaken.

Clues that Your Partner Wants to End Your Relationship

A couple with issues.

Is the person you love no longer happy with you? Here are six clues that your partner wants to end your relationship.

  1. They don’t show interest: They no longer show interest in spending time with you, they stand you up, or gives you excuses to wiggle out of commitments.
  2. Changes in communication: Your conversations no longer flow, they get annoyed when you tell them what’s happening in your life, and the only things they say to you are “good morning” and “good night”.
  3. They’re always fighting with you: Anything disgusts them and sparks a fight.
  4. You haven’t heard “I love you” in a while: They don’t tell you they love you anymore, or express their love with other words.
  5. You have less sex: Your sex life has become boring, you’ve realized they have sex with you pretty much to fulfill a commitment and not because they really feel like it. Or perhaps you don’t even have sex.

What to Do

When our feelings are so stong, it’s normal to feel fear when you think that you partner wants to end your relationship. It’s difficult to say goodbye to the person you’re in love with, but sometimes it happens.

Don’t blame yourself

When one partner wants to break things off, it’s not just due to the other partner. There are many reasons why this happens. Beating yourself up and blaming yourself only increases your stress levels and will only make you feel sadder.

Obviously, it’ll take some time to assimilate this decision and the new situation, but it probably won’t be as terrible as you imagine. It would be much worse to be trapped in a relationship without love and respect.

Don’t think negative thoughts about the future

When a relationship ends, you may feel upset because you think that you can’t live without your partner. However, there’s no way to know what will happen in the future. In fact, there are bonds that thrive when you’re apart.

However, the reality is that you used to live without that person. You can’t make them responsible for your happiness–you’re happiness must come from within. Besides, you never know when you might meet someone or how things will change. Life’s full of surprises.

An end’s also a new beginning

The end of a relationship may be the beginning of a new, more satisfactory stage. Focus on activities that make you happy. You can also start working on plans that you had pushed to the back burner due to your relationship.

Don’t be their therapist

Even if you think that your partner is just going through an existential crisis and only needs some time, you’re not the right person to solve their problems.

It’s not productive to listen to every detail of their ambivalence or talk to them about your emotional pain. These are issues that require deep personal work on both sides.

Don’t chase after them

All human beings are entitled to their freedom and to be with the people they love without pressure. Your partner’s no exception to this rule, and chasing them will just make them distance themselves more from you.

A man walking away from his partner, who's sitting on a log at the beach with her head in her hands.

When You Have to Say Goodbye

You need to understand that no couple knows for sure that they’ll be together forever. It’s much better to say goodbye than to cling to a feeling that no longer serves any purpose.

Although at first you may have low self-esteem and feel empty, discouraged, and insecure, as time passes, that person’s absence will become more bearable and your life will start to make sense again. Let time heal your emotional wounds, thank your partner for everything you lived together, and open yourself up to new experiences.

If you believe that your partner wants to end your relationship, remember that they have every right to do so and even to stop loving you. You can’t live in the past. If the story you created together is over, it’s best to just move on.

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