Opening your eyes before your mouth

It’s said that we have two eyes and one mouth so that we can look twice before speaking. Keep this idea in mind when building personal relationships
Opening your eyes before your mouth

Last update: 29 March, 2019

Opening your eyes from the heart means understanding and discovering much more than by simply opening your mouth.

Remember, the first step to connecting with someone is to listen to them and know how to observe. These two steps are better done with lips that are sealed.

Today’s society hardly gives you the time to make this necessary introspection. Introspection is the key to perceiving the world from the silence, so your heart and mind can understand first and never judge.

A sense of hurry and social networks can sometimes worsen this need for immediacy where there’s no time for reflection. Social networks are always eager to share the latest rumors.

So in today’s article we want to suggest that you take it easy, take a deep breath, and start to see things with open eyes and welcoming heart. Do you dare?

Opening your eyes opens the mind

You’ve probably already heard of the slow movement. The slow movement is a cultural trend with great psychological and emotional importance.

The person who started this way of thinking and attitude toward life wanted, above all, to make us question the myth that speed is what we need. Society thinks that speed will bring us new technologies.

Also, society believes that hyperconnectivity will be more important than the quality of communication, valuing immediacy over anything else.

Similarly, there’s a reaction to fast food, reflecting a change in attitude about this fast pace that so many people are now subjected to.

We as a population have stopped looking in people’s eyes to look at our screens, and it doesn’t stop there.

Relationships between people also require us to think a little more about the following subjects.


Listen before speaking

One of the things that might bother you in your conversations with certain people is that they listen to you, not to understand, but to respond. But always remember, to be listened and understood, first you need to listen yourself.

  • Before you open your mouth you have to open your eyes and ears to start your mechanism of empathetic communication.
  • Empathetic communication is the kind where verbal and non-verbal aspects are equally important.

Verbal communication considers the message that is communicated. Still, your eyes should be alert to any details, gestures, expressions, and the vast emotional world that is inscribed on a person’s face.

It’s essential that everyone be able to disconnect the engine from the rush to enjoy these relaxed dialogues where we connect 100% with the person before us.

Seeing Vs. Contemplating

Socrates said that the art of seeing is the virtue of asking the why of things. We should learn how to differentiate the art of seeing from contemplating

A person who is limited only to “seeing” discovers only the outer shape of things, the surface rumors, and a superficiality that will never deepen.

Someone who only “sees” is carried away by appearances and their own judgments, never truly connecting with the person before them.

Now when you look at your own reality you do it from a more intimate vantage point. From here your consciousness connects your eyes with your heart, with what you care about, the reason for everything, and you establish an exceptional bond with your surroundings and the people who inhabit them.


Eyes tell the truth, mouths only tell rumors

It’s often said that honest eyes will never need subtitles because a look is a reflection of your emotional world. If your eyes have that “magic” ability, make good use of it.

Listen without judging, think without guessing, and allow yourself to get close to the person who is speaking to you to understand them fully and respectfully.

  • Use your eyes to get information and then select each one of your words. Never use them to harm someone – be honest, but don’t disrupt your communication.
  • If you meet someone who cannot hold your gaze, so that when you talk with them they avoid looking into your eyes, ask yourself why. Maybe it’s a lack of trust or shyness, but it’s important that people look face to face during a conversation.
  • In our everyday relations we have more than one occasion to spread rumors. Those become the mouths that speak without knowing, rushing through life, that don’t practice respect or emotional intelligence.

Don’t get angry whenever you hear criticism – it’s not worth it. The person who closes their eyes and only uses their mouth will never be able to speak the truth about you, because they don’t know you.

This is your world, your reality, your way of thinking. So don’t waste your time on things that aren’t worth it.


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