Learn More by Opening Your Eyes than Your Mouth
It’s said that we have two eyes and one mouth so that we can look twice before speaking. Keep this idea in mind when building personal relationships
Opening your eyes from the heart means understanding and discovering much more than by simply opening your mouth.
That’s because the first step to connecting with someone is to listen to them and know how to observe, all of which must be done with lips that are sealed.
Today’s society hardly gives you the time to make this necessary introspection, which perceives the world from the silence of your heart and a mind that understands first and never judges.
Hurry, social networks, always eager to share the latest rumors, can sometimes worsen this need for immediacy where there’s no time for reflection.
So in today’s article we want to suggest that you take it easy, take a deep breath, and start to see things with open eyes and your heart turned “on.” Do you dare?
Opening your eyes opens the mind
You’ve probably already heard of the slow movement. It’s a cultural trend with great psychological and emotional importance.
The person who started this way of thinking and attitude toward life wanted, above all, to make us question the myth that speed will bring us new technologies and that hyperconnectivity will be more important than the quality of communication, valuing immediacy over anything else.
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Similarly, there’s a reaction to fast food, reflecting a change in attitude about this fast pace that so many people are now subjected to.
We as a population have stopped looking in people’s eyes to look at our screens, and it doesn’t stop there.
Relationships between people also require us to think a little more about the following subjects.
The need to listen before speaking
One of the things that might bother you in your conversations with certain people is that they listen to you, not to understand, but to respond.
- Before you open your mouth you have to open your eyes and ears to start your mechanism of empathetic communication.
- Empathetic communication is the kind where verbal and non-verbal aspects are equally important.
The first considers the message that is communicated, but your eyes should be alert to any details, gestures, expressions, and the vast emotional world that is inscribed on a person’s face.
It’s essential that everyone be able to disconnect the engine from the rush to enjoy these relaxed dialogues where we connect 100% with the person before us.
Eyes that can “contemplate” connect with the heart
Socrates said that the art of seeing is the virtue of asking the “why” of things. We should learn how to differentiate the art of “seeing” from the need to know (“contemplate”).
- A person who is limited only to “seeing” discovers the shape of things, the surface rumors, and a superficiality that will never deepen.
Someone who only “sees” is carried away by appearances and their own judgments, never truly connecting with the person before them.
- Now when you look at your own reality you do it from a more intimate vantage point. From here your consciousness connects your eyes with your heart, with what you care about, the reason for everything, and you establish an exceptional bond with your surroundings and the people who inhabit them.
Eyes tell the truth, mouths only tell rumors
It’s often said that honest eyes will never need subtitles because a look is a reflection of your emotional world. If your eyes have that “magic” ability, make good use of it.
Listen without judging, think without guessing, and allow yourself to get close to the person who is speaking to you to understand them fully and respectfully.
- Use your eyes to get information and then select each one of your words. Never use them to harm someone – be honest, but don’t disrupt your communication.
- If you meet someone who cannot hold your gaze, so that when you talk with them they avoid looking into your eyes, ask yourself why. Maybe it’s a lack of trust or shyness, but it’s important that people look face to face during a conversation.
- In our everyday relations we have more than one occasion to spread rumors. Those become the mouths that speak without knowing, rushing through life, that don’t practice respect or emotional intelligence.
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Don’t get angry whenever you hear criticism – it’s not worth it. The person who closes their eyes and only uses their mouth will never be able to speak the truth about you, because they don’t know you.
This is your world, your reality, your way of thinking. So don’t waste your time on things that aren’t worth it.