When the Need to Cry Becomes Too Strong

· December 14, 2016
Sometimes you have to satisfy that need to cry in order to fill yourself with strength again and face the things that life throws at you

My need to cry is not born out of weakness, a lack of strength to resist it, or the desire to throw away everything I have achieved so far.

The urge comes from how strong I’ve been and how much I need to release.

People still consider someone who cries to be weak. You might even reprimand yourself when the tears well up due to the circumstances you’ve been dealt.

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To endure one difficult situation after another, to be the pillar of strength for your family, to always stand tall when all you want is to fall to the floor… you’re forcing yourself to be strong while everything around you has shaken to the core.

Even the strongest tree is swept away in a tsunami

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Now you cry, you let it go, but this is normal. Even the strongest tree must yield to the force of a tsunami. You’re not made of stone and you’ve endured so much on all sides.

The worst thing you can do is hold back those tears or swallow them and pretend you don’t need to release them.

You know that sooner or later they’ll fall. No matter how you try to delay that moment, it will come. No one can be strong every day of their life.

It’s much more challenging when everything else seems to have turned against you.

So you cry. Let out all the anger, frustration, and weariness you’ve been carrying inside. You’ll feel much better afterwards. After all, we all need that release.


It’s important to be resilient. But on the other hand, there must be a way to release all that pressure you’ve been exposed to.

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Accept this fact and don’t push yourself to be so perfect.

The need to cry comes from stress

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The need to shed tears after times when you’ve endured too much is the result of the stress that has been building up.

Whether you want it or not, stress is present throughout many situations in your life. It always appears when you least need it.

Sometimes it can encourage you to slow down or release some of your many obligations.

Stress consists of three distinct phases, however, which you need to know how to identify. This will help you better manage situations as they arise.

The alarm phase

This is when your flight response is activated, telling you that you’re about to face danger. At this stage you don’t think, you simply act.

The resistance phase

If the previous phase lasts for a long time, you move into the second phase where you’re preparing to face what comes, no matter what it is.

You draw strength to stay firm, but it ends up exhausting you.

The exhaustion phase

The situation that caused you stress has not disappeared, but your level of preparedness saps all of your strength.

It’s at this time when you’re one step away from crying, searching for that liberation that will allow you to let go after you’ve resisted for so long.

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4-girl-in-the-cloudsSet limits

If you haven’t experienced this circumstance it’s difficult to be able to act to keep it from happening again.

For this, it’s essential that you learn to set limits, thinking more about yourself and not giving up more than you have to offer.

  • Sometimes because you’re a parent, a figure of authority, or in possession of a certain amount of responsibility, you pile on so many heavy stones that you end up sinking.
  • You’re a human being, not a machine. You have limits.
  • That’s why it’s important to be alert to those phases we mentioned above to put a stop to the things that you’re doing that are negatively affecting you.
  • Putting the brakes on in time will help you recognize how far you can go.

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However, there’s something even more important that you have to learn to do. You must accept that you can’t always be the wall that others lean against, the beam that bears the weight of everything.

Allow yourself to be weak, to weep, to collapse. Only when you accept this can you resurface and adopt the measures that will protect you and keep you from going to those extremes.

Only you know how far you can go. Don’t completely empty yourself. If you’re not capable of something, nothing bad will happen. Your need to cry is a good thing, and it will help you.