How to Move On Independently After a Breakup
Even though at first it was hard for me, now, with each day, I forget you a little more. I focus on myself and my wellbeing, because life goes on
The first few days of our break up were truly hell. This is the stretch of time where you can only begin to move on. I couldn’t stop thinking about the bad just as much as the good. But, now that time has passed. I forget about you every now and then, without even realizing.
When we break up with someone, we have to go through pain that can almost feel like hell. Obsessive thoughts, doubts, the need to go back in time…
This is all natural. Forgetting someone who had been an essential part of our lives, with whom we shared so many things, is hard.
However, when we least expect it, we are able to close this chapter and restart our lives.
I forget you, but sometimes I remember you
A lot of the time I forget about you, since after the break up I continued living my life like before. This is because at work there is no “break up low” that can be considered serious.
I continue to wake up at the same time, even though sometimes I think that it’s pointless. I eat, a little less, but I eat. However, the food doesn’t seem to have much taste.
While I work, I forget about you, while I talk to my colleagues, I forget about you. But, when I get home and my house is waiting, empty, I sink into the abyss.
You were always waiting for me before, but now there is a terrifying silence. When I go to bed, you are no longer there to hug me and keep me warm.
When we end a relationship with someone, that which was our routine for years, changes. Despite the fact that change is good, we have a lot of reluctance when it comes to it.
It is natural that we cannot forget about this person who was so important to us overnight. However, sooner or later, we will do it.
Therefore, it is very important that we don’t hang on to the idea that we cannot live without that person. Because yes you can. And, you must move on.
I have broken up with my partner. What do I do?
By breaking up with our partner, we feel lost. Many places remind us of them and our thoughts are full of “maybes,” doubts and wishes to go back in time. However, it’s time to learn how to move on and move forward.
It could even be that we feel that we are responsible for the failure of the relationship. However, we have to accept what has happened, and live in the present. We cannot change the past.
So, to cope with the situation a little better, what should you do?
Take care of yourself and pamper yourself a lot
Starting to eat poorly, not exercising and letting laziness take over is a very bad thing. We put ourselves in a defeated mood that will not help us in any way.
We tend to auto destruct, as if we are not important.
- Even though the food doesn’t know anything, we should try to eat better.
- Going out and exercising lets the “forgetting you” become more present. It distracts us, helps us feel better, and lets a little happiness in.
Use our friends and family as support
In addition to abandoning ourselves, we usually isolate ourselves from those around us, as though we wanted to keep all of the sadness that we feel inside, instead of letting it out.
Having some great friends that know us and that force us to hangout with them can be a very positive thing. We shouldn’t be ashamed to cry, talk about our feelings and come completely undone.
This is a very good thing and makes us feel liberated. Family and friends are very important pillars. They can also make our feelings of guilt and denial about what is happening interrupt the natural grieving process.
Life doesn’t end with the relationship
It is also important that we question certain beliefs about “the love of our life,” “our other half,” or “the life partner.”
Many people let life go by when they go through a break up because they think that they will never find anyone else, or because they think that they were destined to be with that person.
This couldn’t be further from the truth. Talking with friends and family about this can give us an encouraging and real perspective.
A break up is not and end, nor is it a disgrace. You have learned from it, people come and go, relationships start and end.
There is always life after a relationship.