Maturity Means Being Able to Smile at Your Past
When you’re able to say goodbye to your fears and disappointments to the point that they no longer have power over you but just the opposite, that’s when you can say you have matured.
There are many things that cause sadness, circumstances and experiences that overwhelm you, events you’re unable to cope with. Being mature doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be able to laugh at the things that caused you sadness. It means that what you didn’t think you could overcome in the moment is now an additional memory and experience that has made you stronger. In other words, it means you’re able to smile at your past.
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It hurt me, but no longerWhen things happen that hurt you, the pain may last much longer than it should. In spite of this, it’s important that you learn to look at your past without feeling any pain.
If you reach this point, it’s because you’ve learned from it and can now move forward.
Never take the attitude that you can’t bear something because everyone has enough strength to overcome even the most painful things that may happen to them.
It’s the emotions at the time that make you feel fragile, but you’re not weak, and you must have faith that you’ll get through the situation.
Because of all that it’s a good idea to look back, but never to stay in the situation. Humans have a tendency to leave the past unresolved, and that causes a continuing cycle of unhappiness.
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If you’re able to smile at the things that once hurt you, it means you’ve already moved on, that it’s in the past and you no longer have to worry about it. If you can smile, you’ve become mature. It means that what hurt you once upon a time no longer does today.
Mistakes that become barriers
We’ve all made mistakes at some point in our lives. It’s natural and normal, something that you must learn from and never repeat.
You’ll never grow if you hold on to those stones you stumbled on in the past. It’s best to release them and move on.That’s why you need to take a philosophical look back at everything that has ever hurt you. Of course you need to keep in mind that those wounds should be fully healed. Putting on a bandage and walking away doesn’t work.
You have to heal your wounds well, even if it’s painful, to avoid making the same mistake again.
If you do it over and over again and fail to find a solution, it can become a barrier that prevents you from moving forward. You create obstacles for yourself that aren’t even real.
Have you made the wrong decision? Nothing terrible will happen. All of your decisions mark the way you live. You have to live with the decisions you make, whether they’re right or wrong.
This is known as “maturity.”
Free yourself from what made you sad and smile at your past
It’s hard to let things go when they’re not physical objects and exist only in your mind. People also cling to the things that hurt them. It might sound strange, but it’s an unconscious attitude that can even increase your suffering.Goodbyes are always hard, no matter what kind. Saying goodbye to a situation, a person, a part of yourself that isn’t positive…these types of farewells can be painful and difficult.
But yes, the subsequent release will make you feel amazing.
Maturing has a lot to do with courage, as you’ve seen. Not everyone is able to look their wounds in the eye and know when to put an end to them.
This is why you have to learn to be more responsible, seeking a release from what makes you suffer.
Don’t be afraid to change things when you must. Sometimes it can be very painful, but it’s only the beginning. Once you’re free from the burdens and the suffering you’ll be able to smile at the things that once hurt you.Have you learned to smile at your past? Are you able to laugh now when you think of what once made you cry? If you learn to do that, you have matured.
Maturity involves much more than a series of birthdays. It means learning to cope with problems, overcome your mistakes, and above all learn from them.