I Went Through Many Storms to Reach the Calm I Have Today
The Dalai Lama has been known to say that it’s impossible to achieve peace in the world if you don’t first find it within your own mind and heart.
In fact, in your day-to-day life you don’t try to respond to the problems of the rest of the world. It’s enough for you to “be okay” and that peace has much to do with the concept of calmness.
Being calm means knowing to look your concerns objectively, to end obsessive thoughts. Set aside what causes you unhappiness, annoyance, or discomfort to achieve an inner harmony that has as much to do with yourself as what surrounds you.
It’s not easy to reach this state because in many cases, confronting a lot of your personal storms is something that people may not always be prepared for.
We’ll explain how to get there.
The calm that comes after many storms
There’s no doubt that on more than one occasion you’ve experienced the following: you realized that you couldn’t go on in your relationship with someone and finally had to tell them how you feel.
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These situations are normal processes in the cycle of life. A problem arises when you refuse to face them and allow them to drag on, while additional problems become interspersed with them.
If you find yourself unable to or don’t know how to prioritize your needs, your life gradually turns into a spider web designed to trap you. Many storms surround you, robbing you of happiness.
Pay attention to the steps you should follow to reach a state of inner – and outer – calm.
Learn how to think
You can call it reflection, meditation, or just thinking. Believe it or not, you should have at least one hour a day for yourself in silence where you can connect with yourself – it’s something that’s very therapeutic.
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- It’s ideal to have an hour in the morning to analyze where you are, what needs you have, what’s bothering you, what you’re worried about, and what you can do about it.
- Throughout the day it becomes harder to think in silence and calm, so it’s a good idea to set up a daily appointment with yourself to meditate, and always stick with it. Make it part of your routine.
Learn how to simplify your life
What does it mean to truly simplify your life? When a person begins to meditate, reflect, or think about their own priorities, they realize that there are plenty of things that they can do without.
- Simplifying means to know what is important to you and then make that your priority.
- If there are people who only bring conflicts, complaints, concerns, or fears into your life, it may be time to let them go.
- If there is something about yourself that you don’t like, this is the time to change that, or at least initiate the process.
- Think of the simple life as something pleasant, where everyone is able to be happy with what surrounds them, without artifice or complications.
Avoid criticism, practice acceptance
Once you’re able to set aside the things that hurt you it’s time to move forward without looking for guilty parties in your life.
- If you feel obliged to leave your partner or a friend, don’t complicate this already difficult time looking for culprits or building up anger and resentment.
- Negative emotions are the opposite of inner calm. You can never be calm while you have fear or hate. You need to learn to both accept and avoid criticism.
You know it’s not always easy to give thanks when you’ve been disappointed, betrayed, or simply experienced more sadness than joy.
- Nevertheless, something as simple as approaching your life from a calmer perspective and grateful attitude will without a doubt bring you a deeper inner balance.
- Practicing gratitude is also a way of freeing yourself and calming many storms. It helps you recognize the good that you bring to others and the fact that life is filled with beautiful things for you to enjoy.
- A mind that is calm is also a grateful mind that knows how to set priorities, show respect, and live a simple and humble life.
Being calm has nothing to do with minimizing your daily activities; it is simply finding that wonderful balance where you have nothing in excess and you lack nothing—saying goodbye to the many storms that used to occupy your mind.
This is the time in your life when, finally, you can say to yourself, “I’m fine. I don’t need anything else.”
Reaching this point is a wonderful thing that’s worth the effort. We propose you start your inner journey to being calm today.