You Deserve to Be Happy

March 31, 2016
If you don’t look after your own happiness and well being, there aren’t too many people who will and you’ll even be easier to manipulate. That’s why you need to defend what you hold dear

You deserve to be happy. While it’s important to be aware that not all of your dreams will come true, you can learn to be content with what you have and accept the many good things that do come your way.

Is it an act of selfishness to say out loud that you deserve to be happy? Of course. But it’s something that everyone deserves – just as we all have the right to be loved, respected, and valued.

Nothing is more vital than focusing on living a happy life. However, you need to have one thing perfectly clear in your mind: it’s no use waiting around for someone or something else to “make you happy.”

In order to be happy, you need to focus on yourself.

Set Boundaries to Be Happy

In order to be happy, you really don’t need all that much. Anyone who thinks that happiness comes from having a long string of zeros in their checking account or an arsenal of friends in their contact list is sorely misguided.

All you need is a life that’s filled with dignity and independence, where you can surround yourself with what is really and truly important to you.

Happiness may be simple. The most important thing is to know what you want, something you can identify and achieve.

For example, try leading a where you do the things you enjoy and are proud of. That’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Everything else will simply become “accessories,” aspects or things that can bring both benefit and complication to your life.

Knowing what you truly want out of life isn’t always easy. It first requires having some life experiences to help you set certain expectations.

Learning that there are certain people whose personalities don’t match yours – if you’re introverted, for example – will help you prioritize having a few close friends before having many, and that’s something that you realize with time.

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You Deserve to be Valued and Respected

This is an essential rule that you must never forget: you already know what you deserve. In order to put yourself first and care for your self-esteem, you also deserve respect from others.

It may sound obvious, but if you don’t first have love for yourself it’s easy to be misled or manipulated by the desires of others. It’s easy to lose yourself in motivations that are not your own to the point that you put your own happiness aside without even knowing it.

This is not worth it.

Defend what’s yours, defend your character, your space, and your personal values. Everyone deserves to be respected as well as valued for who they are.

Parents need to recognize and respect their children so that they grow up in a happy and emotionally secure way. This helps them develop good self-esteem that they can cultivate from day to day.

In order to be happy, you also need respect and love from your partners. In addition to caring for yourself, there must be reciprocity in relationships to keep them happy and stable.

No one is being selfish when they say that they need to be respected. You deserve respect from your family, your friends, your coworkers, and of course your relationship partners.

Furthermore, because you’ve learned to respect yourself, you’re also able to show respect to the other people in your life because you know how you would want to be treated.

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To Be Happy is a Lifelong Goal

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You may want a bigger house, an attractive partner who’s also kind and funny, and a great job. However, you should always be happy with what life brings you.

You might not be able to fulfill all of your dreams, but happiness is not a thing: it’s made up of moments, people, and experiences.

Simply try to live with open eyes and an open heart, enjoying the here and now in the most fundamental way possible.

It doesn’t matter if you’re single or don’t have a ton of friends. Just be kind to yourself and learn to count the people who make you truly happy.

Sometimes, life isn’t easy and it throws obstacles in your path. That’s why another important aspect you need to watch every day is your attitude. Your attitude is one of the most critical things that you hold within yourself. It allows you to face life with courage and optimism.

A positive attitude lets you see reality with the knowledge that yes, there are bad times, but there are also many good ones, so be happy in your everyday life. If you resist the natural flow of life and get stuck in resentment you’ll only remain trapped in your unhappiness.

You have to learn to look ahead toward the horizon with hope, putting yourself first and learning to love everything that surrounds you with simplicity and humility.

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