Letting Go is Accepting What Cannot Be Changed

· November 8, 2016
Today's article is about the meaning of letting go, which isn't about giving up altogether, but accepting the things you cannot change.

Letting go is one of the most natural processes in life. It usually happens quite often in our lives, and in many cases can cause us pain and suffering. Ending a relationship, losing a loved one and moving to a new home. These are all “farewells” that we will experience at some point in our lives.

These are experiences that no one has prepared us for, and we must learn how to deal with them by ourselves. There’s no magical formula that will help you better face the situations that require letting go. The emotional pain from letting go can evolve into depression if not managed properly.

Today, however, we want to offer you some advice that will allow you to deal better with these difficult times. 

Letting go, in order to receive

Think about it for a moment. The act of “letting go” is the eternal soundtrack to the background of your life.

Understand that those words, “let go,” aren’t linked exclusively to pain, loss or suffering. Sometimes giving something up also allows you to be a little happier.

  • Letting go of what hurts you means prioritizing yourself.
  • Letting go of the people who harm you will help you achieve mental balance and improve your physical health.
  • And, finally, letting go of certain habits, thoughts and limiting attitudes will help you embrace new opportunities and promote self growth.

It’s important to remember that the act of “letting go” is also an opportunity to grow as a person. However, as you also know, “letting go” sometimes means saying a tough goodbye and finding the strength to move forward. Let’s find out what the best strategies are for dealing with this.

Read more: The Best Tips to Let Go of People Who Don’t Love You

Boat on a lake surrounded by butterflies

Give it plenty of time: beautiful things will reappear

When you lose something or someone you may feel as if a door has been slammed in your face.

  • You could feel this way for at least two or three months. During this time you will go through the natural process of grieving. 
  • It’s important to understand that “letting go” is also an act of unsurpassed courage. No one can live while they cling to suffering and pain.
  • When you lose someone you must “let them go” and “set them free” so that you can move forward. You haven’t forgotten what you’ve left behind, but this means that you’ll have the courage to smile again.

You need to give it time. It’s possible that nothing will return to the way it was before. However, just because it’s different, that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. On the contrary, it can give way to a new, happy and beautiful situation.

Lion with a butterfly on its nose

Letting go of what doesn’t do you good

There are times in your life when you’ll become obsessed with the belief that nothing can be changed. You may think that you can’t leave the person who is by your side, even though you no longer love them. This is not the right mindset to have.

  • It’s important to remember that there is no greater source of suffering than when you deny reality. This is when everything is crumbling around you but you turn a blind eye to protect yourself from it.
  • You must let go of what can no longer sustain you, because, otherwise, you’ll be living in a painful and uncertain lie that no one deserves.
  • You need to be brave and face reality. If someone no longer loves you, don’t beg them for charity or to “try a little bit longer.” All this does is directly sabotage your self-esteem.

Occasionally, although it might seem impossible, letting go of something that is no longer viable is a way to find something better.

Life will teach you what you should fight for and what you should let go

In this intense process of letting things go, you in turn open yourself up to an interesting process. During this process you’ll discover what actually matters.

  • It doesn’t matter if along this path you find that you’re left with very few people. Having just a few people by your side doesn’t matter if you’re focused on the interests you share.
  • If that’s what makes you happy, if it’s those people, then all the letting go you’ve done has been worth the effort.

Also read: Growing up is about coping with what has hurt you

Don’t forget that everything you have left behind has also taught you key things. Everything you’ve experienced is important. Even though they are no longer part of your future, they’re still a part of your personal story.