I’m Too Sensitive

· February 27, 2017
Do you react in a way that some people call exaggerated? Does how other people feel affect you? If so, you may be an emotional sponge.

Are you an emotional sponge? To stop being so sensitive, you have to allow feelings to flow and not keep them inside. If you’re not able to, surround yourself with positive people so you only absorb the good.

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Do you react in a way that some people call exaggerated? Does how other people feel affect you? If so, you may be an emotional sponge.

Things affect you more than they do other people. You feel emotions to the extreme.Some people are very sensitive. This makes them more empathetic than the rest, but also more susceptible.

When you’re sad, you’re really sad; when you’re happy, you’re really happy. If feelings are involved, there is no middle ground.

This may be because you absorb feelings that don’t belong to you.

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I’m an emotional sponge and I’m suffering

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If you’re an emotional sponge you may have been applauded for your wonderful empathy, your listening skills, and your great advice.

However, what they don’t know is that you suffer because you can’t stop absorbing what other people are feeling.

It happens like this: if you’re talking with a friend that’s going through a rough time because someone close to them has died, you feel their pain, you absorb it, and you suffer, too.

This wouldn’t be bad if you weren’t surrounded by people who were constantly transmitting their mostly negative emotions.

It’s not your fault. You aren’t conscious of it, you’re just more sensitive than others. While this is a good thing, it can also be harmful to you.

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Characteristics of an emotional sponge

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Now is the time to realize that you really are an emotional sponge, a person who is affected more than others by things that happen around you. Here are some of the signs:

  • You feel different: You know you perceive and experience your emotions more intensely.
  • It’s always personal: It doesn’t matter what it is, you take it more personally.
  • Stress, anxiety, and burdens are a part of your life: You didn’t choose them, but because you absorb others’ emotions, they’re a part of you.
  • You’re a self-reflective person: Your sensitivity allows you to self-analyze and you self-reflect in order to know yourself better in all aspects.
  • Your empathy is very developed: You can easily put yourself in other people’s shoes.
  • Criticism affects you: Even if you try to avoid it, it almost always makes you cry.

If it’s not yours, let it go!

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If you’ve just realized you’re an emotional sponge, that means you are very reactive. It means that in situations that wouldn’t affect other people, you react in an exaggerated way.

Imagine you get on a bus or you’re in the doctor’s waiting room and someone sits down next to you. If they aren’t feeling well, you start to feel the same way without trying to or wanting to. It doesn’t matter that you don’t know them at all.

This becomes a big problem when it starts affecting your life and when you aren’t able to let go of what isn’t yours.

You need to be very careful because you could start forgetting yourself, giving yourself over to others, and suffering for other people.

Take care of your health

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When this is happening, it’s important to start reorienting your feelings. Empathy isn’t negative, feeling too much isn’t either, but carrying and absorbing other people’s pain and suffering is.

Perceiving and absorbing aren’t the same thing, and this is something that sometimes gets out of control.

That’s why, when you feel overwhelmed or when you notice your emotions are getting out of hand, watch out for yourself. This is when you need protect yourself from others’ feelings, and learn to feel but also let go.

It is not up to you to be responsible for people’s feelings, sorrow, sadness, pain…

If you do, they build up along with your own feelings until it becomes too much and you explode.

Learn to distance yourself from the most negative emotions and surround yourself with positive people. This way, you absorb the good and avoid the bad.

When you can’t do this, allow the negativity run its course. Don’t try to keep it in.

Just let it go.