How to React if Your Son or Daughter is Homosexual

August 31, 2018
Homosexuality is something that emerges at an early age. It's important the person loves and accepts themselves for what they are, and that their family does the same. In this article, we'll talk to you about what to do if your child tells you that he or she is homosexual.

Homosexuality is defined as sexual attraction between two people of the same gender. Since the 1970’s, it’s no longer considered some form of mental disorder. However, even today, for a traditional or conservative family, learning that your son or daughter is homosexual can be difficult for many parents.

In a situation like this, your initial reaction may be difficult to control. But the worst part can be trying to accept this new information without truly knowing how to reconcile it with your family values.

Admitting that your child is homosexual  may be confusing for you.

As a result, it’s absolutely fundamental that you make every effort to understand your child’s situation. Doing this will make the whole situation much less traumatic, particularly for your child. It’s important that they don’t become a victim of intolerance from the family.

Even though society has made great progress in acknowledging and defending the rights of homosexuals, intolerance remains a significant issue. Using advice from specialists and psychologists, we’ve produced a list of recommendations to help you manage the situation if your son or daughter is homosexual.

How to react if your son or daughter is homosexual

1. Resist getting angry

How to react if your son or daughter is homosexual

You need to realize that this isn’t some “decision” that your child has made. This is simply how they are.

Your relationship with them as a parent doesn’t have to change just because of their sexual orientation. Many parents, despite having homosexual friends, are full of prejudice. Don’t be one of them.

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2. Find out more

Seek advice from other parents who have been in the same situation. This will help you understand how they came to terms with things, and what they did to maintain a good relationship with their son or daughter. Ignorance about homosexuality can cause all manner of misunderstandings and confusion.

If you don’t think you can handle the situation on your own, seek professional help. A specialist will be able to help you with techniques to lower your stress levels and encourage acceptance.

3. Provide emotional support

Mother supporting her daughter

Admitting that they’re homosexual can be an extremely stressful experience for your child. As a result, it’s fundamental that you provide them with unconditional support. They’ve probably suffered in silence for a long time, keeping it a secret from everybody. Don’t allow this fear and repression continue because of the family. It’s bad enough outside the family without this being an issue at home, too.

Supporting them means accepting them. Don’t try to change them or convince them that they’re wrong. First, it’s impossible. This is simply how they are, how they were born. Second, it’s disrespectful to their condition.

4. Don’t look for blame

Let us say once again, homosexuality is not an illness. It’s not contagious, nor is it caused by external factors.

If your son or daughter is homosexual, accept, recognize, respect, and love them. Of course it’s a difficult situation, but take your time and relax. The love you have for your son or daughter will, over time, transcend any prejudices you might have had.

5. Forget about what other people say

Mother supporting her son

You mustn’t worry about what other people think or say, even if they’re part of your own family.

Your child’s homosexuality shouldn’t be cause for embarrassment or social pressure. We all live today in a highly diverse world and the negative stigma attached to homosexuality is diminishing all the time.

If your other family members or friends can’t deal with it, give them time. Everyone has the right to deal with things in their own way and at their own pace.

Final thoughts

You gave your child life and you should love them unconditionally. It’s the best decision you’ll ever make. Don’t wonder about if it was the result of something you’ve done. A homosexual person can have just the same abilities, virtues, and defects as any heterosexual person, and vice versa.

Homosexuals have the same rights as everyone else. Above all, they have the right to a dignified life. When young people receive parental support, they can live a much more harmonious life, reducing the risk of depression or addiction.

Homosexuality is a normal sexual orientation. Hostile reactions to your son or daughter’s sexual orientation can cause conflict in the family or between you and your partner. Talking openly will always help to heal wounds that can come about by not knowing how to face the situation.

Moving through each phase progressively is a good way to develop a positive relationship with your son or daughter. Let them know that you accept them. It’ll be to the benefit of the whole family.

Keeping silent or pretending that nothing has happened while you digest the news will cause a lot of suffering. Let them know that you’ll always love them unconditionally, because that’s what true love is, particularly the love of a mother and father.