How To Move On When Nothing Makes Us Happy
When there's nothing that makes us happy, we shouldn't lose our calm. It's best to move forward little by little and make small changes that provide us with a feeling of well being, even minimally
There are times when nothing makes us happy. The world loses its luster, songs lose their music and we are no longer infected by the joy of those who surround us.
Moving on in those critical moments is not easy if we can’t find a good enough reason for us to get up every day. However, the reason is easy to see: it’s you.
When we don’t take care of our emotional needs and let others surround and trap us in a way that smothers us, take our energy and control our lives, our world gets turned upside down.
They can try to cheer us up with that old saying “time heals all wounds,” but if we don’t take the reins of what is happening in our own personal universe, encouragement and pats on the back will do no good.
There are many times when basically nothing makes us happy. But we can’t let a bad moment turn into a bad life.
We’ll tell you what to do.
Coping Strategies When Nothing Makes Us Happy
If nothing makes us happy and we’ve been in a bad mood for more than three months, with insomnia, lack of appetite and a sense of apathy towards everything that used to interest us, we recommend that you speak to your doctor.
You may be suffering from depression, and you should always get a diagnosis and follow the guidance of a professional according to your needs.
Once we’ve discarded or confirmed that it’s not a deeper psychological problem, it’s necessary to reflect on the following dimensions and try to practice them every day.
Respect Your Rhythms: The World Has Slowed Down
You don’t feel good and you can’t or shouldn’t pretend otherwise. What good does it do to smile and wear a mask when what we feel is sadness and apathy?
- Don’t fake what you feel or you will intensify your suffering.
- You have the right to live this fragile moment of sadness. Believe it or not, negative motions have a purpose, which is to make us see that “there is something we need to change” to better adapt to our environment.
Respect this slower rhythm that your body and mind now needs. You need time for introspection, to ask yourself questions and discover what is happening inside.
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Leave Behind What You Feel And Discover What You Need
You know that you aren’t well, with moments of sadness followed by frustration, then others when you only want to sleep, and later, you need to talk to someone.
Well, given that you’re aware of the complex emotional merry-go-round you find yourself on, it’s time to put feelings aside to identify what you need.
- I need to get better.
- I need some time alone.
- I need to find new dreams.
- I need to start over.
- I want to feel useful.
- I want to give myself the love I deserve.
Small Daily Changes
No one starts feeling better from one moment to the next or one day to the next. By modifying little by little our thinking and making small changes, we work towards a greater well-being every day.
- Today I’m going to take a long walk, which I will enjoy to the fullest extent.
- Today I’m going to control my negative thoughts.
- Today I’m going to hang out with some friends and try to talk about future plans.
- Today I’m going to make myself the priority, to give myself time and enjoyable moments.
- Today I’m going to start a long-term project: I will enroll in a course, or plan a trip.
These small changes in our daily routines create important emotional improvements that will little by little rebuild our well-being.
To Be Happy, Give Up Some Things
Sometimes to be happy, we have to be capable of sacrificing some things or even relationships with people. All of this means an act of courage that isn’t always easy to carry out.
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We need to learn to listen to our needs and our conscience. If we realize that our surroundings are distancing us from our essence, we are also giving up our happiness.
- Giving up is learning to close circles and end stages. It is knowing how to recognize what is no longer important, what no longer enriches us and what makes us feel bad.
- You have to also keep in mind that sometimes there is no one responsible for our unhappiness. Sometimes it’s our own fears and insecurities that close the doors to our well-being.
Learn to spot these sources of internal sabotage and defeat them. It will always be worth the effort.