How To Move On When Nothing Makes Us Happy

When there's nothing that makes us happy, we shouldn't lose our calm. It's best to move forward little by little and make small changes that provide us with a feeling of well being, even minimally
How To Move On When Nothing Makes Us Happy

Last update: 18 January, 2019

There are times when nothing makes us happy. The world loses its luster, songs lose their tune and we are no longer infected by the joy of those who surround us. We need to move on but just haven’t got the get up and do.

Moving on in those critical moments is not easy if we can’t find a good enough reason to get up in the morning. However, the reason is easy to see: it’s you.

When we don’t take care of our emotional needs and let others surround and trap us in a way that smothers us, taking our energy and controlling our lives, our world gets turned upside down.

They can try to cheer us up with that old saying “time heals all wounds,” but if we don’t take hold of what is happening in our own personal life, then encouragement and pats on the back will do no good.

There are often times when basically nothing makes us happy. But we can’t let a bad moment turn into a bad life.

We’ll tell you what to do.

Coping strategies when nothing makes us happy

If nothing makes us happy and we’ve been in a bad mood for more than three months, with insomnia, lack of appetite and a sense of apathy towards everything that used to interest us, we recommend that you speak to your doctor.

You may be suffering from depression, and you should always get a diagnosis and follow the guidance of a professional according to your needs.

Once we’ve ruled out a deeper psychological problem, we need to reflect on the following aspects and try to practice them every day and move on.

The emotional intelligence tree.

Respect your rhythms: the world has slowed down

OK, so you don’t feel good, and you can’t or shouldn’t pretend otherwise. What good does it do to smile and wear a mask when what we feel inside is sadness and apathy?

  • Don’t fake what you feel or you will intensify your suffering.
  • You have the right to live through these fragile moments of sadness. Believe it or not, negative emotions have a purpose, which is to make us see that “there is something we need to change” in order to adapt better to our environment and move on.

Respect this slower rhythm that your body and mind now needs. You need time for introspection, to ask yourself questions and discover what is happening inside.

Leave behind what you feel and discover what you need

You know that you aren’t well, with moments of sadness followed by frustration, then others when you only want to sleep, and later, you need to talk to someone.

Well, given that you’re aware of the complex, emotional merry-go-round you find yourself on, it’s time to put your feelings to one side and identify what you need.

  • I need to get better
  • I need some time alone
  • I’m going to look for new dreams
  • I need to start over
  • I want to feel useful
  • I’ll give myself the love I deserve
A woman waiting next to a tree.

Small daily changes

No one will start feeling better from one day to the next. By gradually changing our thinking and making small changes, we’ll work towards a greater well-being with every day that passes.

  • Today I’m going to take a long walk, which I will enjoy to the fullest extent
  • Today I’m going to control my negative thoughts
  • I’m also going to hang out with some friends and try to talk about future plans
  • Today I’m going to make myself the priority, to give myself time and moments to enjoy
  • Today I’m going to start a long-term project: I will enroll in a course, or plan a trip

These small changes in our daily routines create important emotional improvements that will little by little rebuild our well-being.

To be happy, give up things and move on

Sometimes, to be happy, we have to be capable of sacrificing some things or even relationships with people. All of this implies an act of courage that isn’t always easy to carry out.

We need to learn to listen to our needs and our conscience. If we realize that our surroundings are distancing us from our essence, then we are also giving up our happiness.

  • Giving up is learning to close circles and end stages. It is knowing how to recognize what is no longer important, what no longer enriches us and what makes us feel bad.
  • You have to also keep in mind that sometimes there is no one responsible for our unhappiness. Sometimes it’s our own fears and insecurities that close the doors to our well-being.

Therefore, learn to spot these sources of internal sabotage, defeat them, and move on. It will always be worth the effort.

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