Self-Love 101: How to Love Yourself

· March 28, 2018
When it comes to loving ourselves, we need to know to accept criticism, understand our defects and strengths; we also need to know how to use the latter to be more joyful

That’s why in our post today, we’ll give you some advice on raising your self-esteem and loving that person who’ll also be with you: you.

Loving yourself to feel complete

When we say that we need to love ourselves, it’s because doing so has a lot of benefits.

It makes it possible for us to be our best version, to accept ourselves just as we are and to radiate love wherever we may go. We also need to love ourselves in order to enjoy healthier interpersonal relationships as well.

Loving ourselves is being honest, changing what hurts us, preparing ourselves for any kind of situation and being committed to life. It means being aware of vital necessities, respecting ourselves and, above all, being our own best friend.

Don’t forget that there is no love that is big enough to fill the hole in a person who doesn’t love him or herself.

Heal those emotional wounds that hinder you from being happy with yourself, enjoy reflecting back on the past and be happy to spend time alone. By doing so, you’ll grow an unbreakable bond with yourself.

How to love yourself

One of the main steps for loving ourselves is not demanding too much of ourselves while at the same time, drawing realistic goals. Aim for the best today and don’t lose hope or get anxious for anything else.

You’re unique and irreplaceable, and you should remember it every day. Check out our tips below on how to love yourself:

1. Be just as you are

Do you like dancing in the center of the dance floor? Do it! Want to go about life with green hair? Dye it! Are you tired of hiding your sexual orientation? Come out! Is it hard for you to relate to others? Enjoy activities by yourself!

It doesn’t matter if others look, criticize or even laugh at you. If you’re happy doing something, you shouldn’t stop doing it for anything in the world.

This goes for your physical appearance as well as for your emotions and opinions. If you’re 100% authentic, you’ll have better results than you would hiding behind a mask or fake personality.

You didn’t know? Be Yourself and You’ll Never Fail

2. Value your ideas and decisions

Our next piece of advice for loving yourself is working on being able to say what you think. As long as you are respectful and kind, you can express yourself however you’d like. 

Your opinions are yours and only yours. Don’t agree with others to please them, don’t betray your ideas nor fail your truths.

When you make good decisions, celebrate yourself. Don’t get overwhelmed if you make mistakes. We all mess up and that’s what makes us human. We can even learn from them for the future.

Don’t think twice about treating yourself when you do good and don’t be too hard on yourself when you don’t.

3. Push the critics to the side

There are two types of criticism: constructive criticism and destructive criticism. Unfortunately, we tend to use more of the latter.

One of the problems of destructive criticism is that they make us feel inferior, undeserving of happiness or good news, sad, depressed and anguished.

And, of course, they hinder us from loving ourselves.

Say no to criticizing yourself for everything and, if you end up doing it, make sure it’ll help you in the long run. Change perspectives and focus on what you can change.

If you accept yourself of highlight your strengths instead of criticizing yourself, you’ll feel better about yourself.

4. Say goodbye to fears

Everything that you’re afraid of pushes your further away from joy and happiness. But, listen up, it’s normal to be scared in certain situations. The important thing is to face them and overcome the obstacles.

When you’ve sorted out those barriers, you’ll be able to enjoy some impressive personal growth. And you’ll say to yourself, “I faced something that I was really afraid of!” There’s no doubt about it, it’s an extremely important step in learning how to love yourself.

Want to know more? Your Body Can Help You Overcome Your Fears

5. Focus on your strengths

Make a list (a mental one if you prefer) with all of the things that you consider to be good about yourself. At first, you might not think that you have anything, but you’ll be surprised to know how many strengths you actually posses.

Even though they may be small or even though you might think they’re insignificant… they can help you feel better about yourself.

If you focus on your strengths, on the things that you do well in life and your small, everyday triumphs, you’ll feel much happier about yourself.

To add on, don’t forget that positive thinking brings about more good things and your self-esteem will grow in no time.

The more you think about something the more important it’ll be to you. Focus on your achievements and you’ll love yourself just as you are.

6. Don’t compare yourself

Comparing yourself will only lead you to unhappiness and feelings of inferiority. Of course, the people around us are better than us at many things, but we’re also better than them in others.

With your strengths and qualities, you’re unique and you can’t compare yourself to those around you unless you’re using them as an example to improve yourself more and more each day.

Don’t forget that you’re worth more than you think. You’re important to your friends and family. In their eyes, you can’t be replaced by anyone else. You should think the same thing about yourself.

Loving yourself is an act that requires a quite a bit of concentration and spirit. It also requires a little discipline and lots of patience.