Good People Hide Their Wounds But Never Surrender

· November 22, 2016
Don't confuse good people with those who want to take advantage of us. If you feel abused, learn to distance yourself and protect your integrity.

Good people are more than just the pillar of a family, an eternal ally in a group of friends or a beacon of light in our complex societies.

It’s a challenge because above all, they must confront deceptions, betrayal and the idea that not everyone sees and perceives the world from their point of view.

It’s not easy, but let’s make one thing clear: don’t believe that people are divided into two categories of good and bad. It isn’t true.

It’s about understanding that there is a kind of person who breeds unique traits and qualities that make them unique individuals.

It’s those who see the world from their heart. They stand out as sensitive, but they possess greater courage.

They follow their instincts, but more often than not they are dismissed as naive for trusting too much and vulnerable to giving everything with nothing in return.

It’s true that they cover many wounds and pain that is now scarred over, but good people do not give up or want to change their attitude. It’s because they can’t do it any other way; no one can uproot themselves that easily.

If you can identify with this, below we’ll explain some ways you can confront your daily life.

Good people must take care of their emotional integrity


It’s interesting that when good people are let down by others, they blame themselves.

If someone betrays me, I’m guilty for expecting so much from others or trusting unconditionally.

  • Little by little, each little sliver of pain and deception we feel in our heart becomes lodged in the personal trunk we call self-esteem.
  • By feeling responsible for each letdown or failure, we create a negative self-image when someone who offers care, support and positive energy should never arrive at this conclusion.
  • We have to manage the right way to always maintain an internal balance in both our positive and negative realities.

Also read Low Self-Esteem: When You Turn Into Your Own Enemy

Because if we don’t, we’ll be victims instead of heroes, and when those around us see this, they are more likely to take advantage of us.

The art of cultivating self-love

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Self-love is an emotional and psychological muscle that gives us strength and dignity. Think of your skeleton. Thanks to this muscle, you stand on your feet and go about the world with strength and harmony.

  • If you break a bone, you don’t only feel pain but also lose movement and even run the risk of beginning to depend on others.
  • Good people must practice self-love. To achieve this, you have to learn to say no when you don’t want to do something and when we can’t do everything that is demanded of us.
  • Also, kindness doesn’t mean giving up dignity. If you feel like a victim of manipulation or selfishness, you have the right and the duty to protect yourself. Stand up for yourself.

Also read I’m Distancing Myself Because I Love Myself

The scars you hide are what you are today

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You’ve been hurt so many times and maybe you have never shared these deceptions you’ve lived through with anyone.

  • You need to learn to manage these situations and emotional wounds.
  • If someone lets you down, it’s not your fault. Understand that not everyone is how you want them to be.
  • Sure you feel hurt, and the hurt stings, but the sooner you move on, the better.
  • Our scars teach us how to see things more clearly, to be more prudent, to not give everything for nothing in return, and to not open up our hearts to those who have not shown us any authenticity.

Never give up, never forget your roots

  • Good people can’t be anything but what they are: hearts open to those around us, ready to help and provide happiness.
  • That’s how we feel good and live life. Perhaps that’s why there is so much pain and emptiness when our dedication, efforts and presence are not appreciated.
  • However, never forget your roots. Understand that kindness and dignity go hand in hand.
  • By calling attention to ourselves, saying “why don’t you keep me in mind” or “you make me feel like nothing”  is not being selfish. It is how we defend ourselves and practice self-love.

To sum up, never stop being who you are, which is all you’ve ever known. But don’t forget that you can always establish limits and protect yourself.