The Game of Flirting: 5 Effective Ways to Attract a Man

January 9, 2019
The art of seduction is not a new concept. Since primitive times attraction began with a simple look between two individuals.

In the game of flirting, it’s worth using all weapons at your disposal…. And why not break some of the rules? Gone are the days where a woman had to wait to be courted. Now, they can also make the first move.

In this article, we’re not going to focus on the little things like you’re look. Instead, we’re going to focus on what will really get you glances.

But what is it that actually attracts a man? First, we need to immerse ourselves in some basic psychology and social techniques that never fail.

How to attract a man

Seducing a man requires know yourself first and foremost. It’s about knowing who you are and feeling secure about yourself.

You need to transmit self-confidence regardless of how you look physically. The key is to follow the following steps:

  • Encourage him not only to be interested in you, but to want you.
  • Become the person he can trust.
  • Send signals with a touch of ambiguity.
  • Create the illusion that others want you.
  • Make him believe he needs you.

Furthermore, you can’t beat femininity. A woman with characteristics of understanding, honest vulnerability and independence often catches men’s eyes.

Undoubtedly, this will all arouse curiosity in front of a man.

Let’s analyse this in more detail:

1. Interest

the game of flirting

The first thing you have to do is ask yourself: What might make you look vulnerable to that person? Analyse what changes in your body language and your movements.

It’s good to smile and look comfortable (even if it’s just pretending!).

Under no circumstances let him see that you get nervous by playing with your finger on the tip of your hair, biting your lip, or stuttering when you speak.

Be energetic and creative when entering into a conversation. This will allow you to be more confident and arouse his interest.

2. Trust

The key is to approach subtly, because if you’re too direct, you run the risk of encouraging some resistance. Seduction should happen gradually so that a man doesn’t immediately notice your presence.

You can initiate an approach through a third party, but your behaviour must be neutral. It’s always better to give the opportunity for the man to speak so you can analyse your strengths, weaknesses, and opportunities.

In the art of seducing, the winner is the one who keeps a cool head, because if you let your emotions guide you, you’ll lose control of the situation.

3. Ambiguity


The next step is to draw attention to yourself.

How to do this?

It’s about giving off contradictory signals that cause some doubt.

That is to say: be gentle and intelligent, but at the same time don’t be afraid to show some weakness. This will cause him to enter a state of confusion and the mystery will keep him close to you.

Consider the following analogy: product marketing offers you a product showing all its qualities and becomes so irresistible that you want to try it as soon as possible.

In relationships, it works in a similar way and that’s when fantasy comes in. The fact that you don’t “give it a try”, metaphorically speaking, turns you into a challenge. Of course, then a competitive instinct to have you kicks in.

It’s important to remember that you shouldn’t feel sure that he’s attracted until he shows that he likes your physical company but that he also feels your absence.

Your way of dressing and the way your lips look ensure that he turns to see you. However, your goal is to captivate his mind, to see that there’s more behind just your outfit.

To achieve this, you have to put disinterest and insecurity in the balance. This means you shouldn’t be too shy or nor too cold: mix both and you’ll catch him.

4. Envy

Why do we want what others have? There’s something in psychology called “missing piece syndrome”, which explains why you want what you don’t have.

This situation is not only present in the domain of love; we see it on a daily basis. We feel pressure when someone is achieving something and we’re not.

It’s a dissatisfaction that doesn’t allow us to move forward and causes us to worry. A woman that others avoid doesn’t arouse interest.

You need to show yourself as someone desirable, so that the man believes that you’re desired other men. This will automatically increase your value and he’ll do whatever it takes to have you.

5. Need


A satisfied person will be difficult to seduce. You need to make him believe he needs you. There are a lot of women out there who, directly or indirectly, are your competitors.

Now you have to show your best qualities and project an image of superiority.

You can start by touching sensitive topics: stories from your past that show him that you’re much better than other women.

The best thing to do is to be both honest and confident so that he discovers that you’re someone he can trust and feel vulnerable with.

This is one way to take that step beyond friendship. If you uncover a wound, the anxiety to fill that void will show him that you’re the one to fulfill his needs. The chance to fill a void is a weakness that’s often used to seduce.

Be charming but subtle. Don’t invade his space. Let him seek you. Otherwise, if you’re invasive, he’ll end up running away.

You have to make sure that when he’s with you, he feels at peace and comfortable, but when he goes away, he misses you.

So, are you ready to nab him?