Five Thoughts for Women Who Do Everything for Others

March 11, 2019
There are many women and men who want to do everything and have everything under control. As a result, they don't take care of themselves to the point of burning themselves out.

There are women who devote their entire lives to others: to the children they raise, to the relatives who depend on them, to their partners. They often give themselves to far too many things and people.

We all know someone like this. There are also men who show these selfless, dedicated characteristics to every member of their social circle. However, as you already know, this kind of personality is often more common in women.

The women who do everything

There are millions of women who do everything, and receive very little in return. These people give everything while not taking care of themselves. However, many don’t realize how this can affect them in the long-term.

Everything has a limit. Sooner or later, this investment will become an emotional and psychological burden. Even though your mind says “keep going”, your body reaches its limit and gets sick.

If you’re like this, if you find yourself ultimately getting overwhelmed and feel constant mood changes, then force yourself to rest.

Slow down the pace of your life and reflect on these five questions. They’ll be a big help to you.

1. How long since you’ve enjoyed peace and quiet?

A moonlit scene outside.

Silence is healthy for your brain. It also gives peace to your thoughts.

Take a daily “bath” of silence and solitude. This will help you to get a jump start. In addition, it will also help you to connect with yourself.

Some women are used to spending most of their day taking care of others. This means taking care of dependent relatives, children, parents, etc. The fact is that these women aren’t able to have the intimate, peaceful, and serene moments that we all need when we’re suffering from stress.

In other words, there are many people who are used to high activity levels and job pressure. Because of this, they see silence and solitude as something strange and unnecessary.

Try setting aside an hour of silence. You’ll really notice the benefits!

See also: When I Least Expected It, Silence Gave Me the Answer

2. Do you have meaningful conversations?

Meaningful conversations are the ones we have with people who are able to really listen to us and understand us. These people include friends and family who can connect emotionally and cognitively with you.

At the same time, this kind of conversation is the kind that lets you unburden yourself. These conversations let you look more deeply at certain aspects of your day to day life and get a new perspective.

In our fast paced, high-pressure world, meaningful conversations are losing their value.

Encourage face-to-face conversation, to talk about everything or about nothing in particular! Encourage meaningful times where you can express your emotions and truly connect with others.

3. You can’t do everything

A leaf on some still water.

No, there aren’t 30 hours in the day and no, you can’t give everything to everyone 90% of the time. Saying “I can do everything” and “I need to do everything they expect of me” will get you nowhere in the long run.

However, you probably find it very difficult to say “I can’t.” Despite this, it’s something you really need to do. Why not consider the following phrases and put them into practice in your life?

  • I’m just too tired today. I’m sorry but I can’t help you out.
  • No, I won’t be able to help you for a few days, I need some time for myself.
  • No, I’ve decided I can’t do what you’re asking me to do. It’s stressing me out.
  • I don’t feel well and I need to look after myself more.

Read more: 7 Reasons Why You Are Feeling Tired

4. Feel proud of yourself and value yourself every day

People who are used to doing everything for others often don’t feel appreciated. Little by little, the people around this kind of woman assume that she’ll always be there. She’s there to help, to support, to strengthen, to be a helping hand, and take care of everything.

However, if others aren’t able to notice all the good things you do, then they should learn to do them themselves.

There isn’t anything wrong with valuing yourself or loving yourself. It’s OK to feel proud of every good thing you do and to be your own daily support.

5. Learn to provide for yourself

A dandelion in a glass.

If there’s something that you know to a “t”, it’s taking care of others. They rule your time, emotions, care, attention, and energy.

What if you start to provide for yourself a little more?

  • Dedicate time to yourself
  • Buy yourself something nice
  • Do something you like every day
  • Travel
  • Take care of your body image
  • Make friends who make you laugh

Don’t wait to think about these ideas. Make a change in your life if you realize that you need it.