Five Thoughts for Women Who Do Everything for Others

· June 26, 2017
There are many women and men who want to do everything and have everything under control. As a result, they don't take care of themselves to the point of being overwhelmed.

There are women who dedicate their entire lives to others: to the children they raise, to the relatives who depend on them, to their relationship they give up, and sometimes, to too many things.

We all know someone like this. There are also men who show these selfless, dedicated characteristics to every member of their social circle.

However, as you already know, this kind of personality is more common in women.

There are millions of women who do a lot and receive little. These people give everything while not taking care of themselves.

However, many don’t realize how this can affect them long-term.

Everything has a limit. Sooner or later, this investment will become an emotional and psychological burden. Even though your mind says “press forward”, your body reaches its limit and gets sick. Your body suffers.

If you’re like this, if you find yourself ultimately getting overwhelmed and feel constant mood changes, force yourself to rest.

Slow down the pace of your life and reflect on these five questions. They will be a big help to you.

1. How long has it been since you’ve enjoyed peace and quiet?

Silence is healthy for your brain. It’s also peace for your thoughts.

Take a daily “bath” of silence and solitude. This will help you to get a jump start. In addition, it also helps you to connect with yourself.

Some women are used to spending most of their day taking care of others. This means taking care of dependent relatives, taking care of children, taking care of parents, etc. Overall, these women don’t take advantage of intimate, peaceful, and serene moments that we all need when we’re suffering from stress.

In other words, there are many people who are used to high activity levels and job pressure. They see silence and solitude as something strange and unnecessary.

In this case, it’s almost necessary for you to set aside an hour of silence. It has immediate benefits.

2. Do you have meaningful conversations?

Meaningful conversations are the ones we have with people who are able to hear and understand us. These people include friends and family who connect emotionally and cognitively with you.

At the same time, this kind of conversation is the kind that lets you release your worries. These conversations let you dive deeper in certain aspects of your day to day life so you can get a new perspective.

In a fast paced, high-pressure world, meaningful conversations are losing their value.

Take care of them. Encourage face-to-face meetings to talk about everything and nothing. Encourage meetings where you take care of your emotions and truly connect.

3. Even though you think you can do everything, you can’t. You have the right to complain.

No, there aren’t 30 hours in the day and no, you can’t give everything to everyone 90% of the time. Saying “I can do everything” and “I need to do everything they expect of me” will lead you nowhere sooner or later.

However, you probably don’t know how to say “I can’t.” Despite this, it’s necessary and healthy for you to start to say one of the following phrases out loud:

  • I’m overwhelmed today. I can’t help you out.
  • No, I think that I won’t be able to help you in a few days. I need some time for myself.
  • No, I’ve decided I can’t do what you’re asking me to do. It’s overwhelming me.
  • I don’t feel well and I need to take more care of myself.

4. Feel proud of yourself and value yourself every day.

People who are accustomed to doing anything for others don’t feel recognized.

Little by little, the people around this kind of woman assume that she’ll always be there. She’s there to help, to support, to strengthen, to be a helping hand and take care of everything.

However, if others aren’t able to notice every good thing you do, they need to do it themselves.

There isn’t anything wrong with valuing yourself or loving yourself. It’s OK to feel proud of every good thing you do and to be your own daily support.

5. Learn to provide for yourself.

If there is something that you know to a “t”, it’s taking care of others. They rule your time, emotions, care, attention, and energy.

What if you start to provide for yourself a little more?

  • Dedicate time to yourself.
  • Get yourself a gift. Give yourself something you like.
  • Do something you like every day.
  • Travel.
  • Take care of your body image.
  • Make friends who make you laugh.

Don’t wait to think about these ideas. Make a change in your life if you realize that you need it.

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