When You Are Exhausted, Let Go
Are you a perfectionist? Are you too altruistic or empathetic for your own good? This may be oppressing and exhausting you. It's time to learn to let go.
Have you ever felt like something has overtaken you? A need for liberty. You don’t know why, but you need it.
Maybe you’ve been too attached to different people or situations. Let go. You will see how you can stop feeling so tired.
Think about your next breath. If you try to hold it in and control it, eventually you will end up exhausted.
Letting go is a natural human act. It’s not only physical, but mental.
We attach ourselves to people, circumstances, things, and behaviors that don’t help us. In fact, they may oppress us and bind us until they take all of our energy.
The monks and the river
This is the story of two monks that illustrates how we sometimes take on unnecessary burdens that we aren’t aware of.
Two Buddhist monks were traveling together and they had to cross a rushing river. A woman was on the bank of the river. She asked them to help her cross this river because she couldn’t do it alone.
One of the monks followed the rules of his order, which forbid him from talking to or touching any woman. So he ignored her and crossed the river.
The other monk had compassion for the woman. He took her in his arms and carried her to the other side of the river. There, he sent her on her way. Then, the two monks continued their journey.
After walking for several hours, having gone many miles, the first monk kept thinking about what had happened.
When he couldn’t hold in his anger in any longer, he complained to his partner. How could he disobey the rules, risk getting expelled, and dishonor his brotherhood.
The second monk said:
“I left that woman on the river bank. Why are you carrying her with you?”
Let go of what doesn’t belong to you
The previous story tells us something. Sometimes we take on burdens that aren’t ours to carry. This undermines our character and floods us with emotions and negative feelings.
Little by little, we start to accumulate bad thoughts. This happens until we can’t take it anymore and need to let off some steam. But is this really necessary?
How many times have you taken on distant problems? Isn’t it interesting how much more they affect you than your own problems?
You know how cows keep chewing their cud? That’s how it is with some people. They chew and chew, refusing to give up what has already been destroyed.
This view of life causes tension. If we hold on to it, we’ll have to let go eventually.
It’s then that we develop anxiety, stress, and depression.
Let go of the cords you have bound yourself with
No one forced you to take on this weight. They haven’t stopped you from climbing higher. You have done this voluntarily. Do you want to know why?
- Your perfectionism forces you to take responsibility for everything. If something goes wrong, it’ll be your fault. In your head, there is no possibility for error. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You also learn from your failures.
- You have become an altruistic person, but one that puts everyone else first, forgetting about yourself.
However, there is a secret you need to know. You come first, then everyone else.
- Having a lot of empathy makes you personally feel other people’s pain. This isn’t always positive. Not only do you understand them, you put yourself in their place.
- Sometimes, you make yourself responsible. You try to help by shouldering their problems.
It isn’t bad to give a hand to someone who needs it. However, if they don’t, learn how to let go.
Sometimes, we give too much or become emotionally dependent on another person. We believe that this is right. It’s possible we think this makes us good people who know how to love.
Unfortunately, this can work against you. Giving too much can give others the opportunity to use and manipulate you.
On the other hand, emotional dependence will make it so you can’t be happy without someone else.
Let go, be free… We have been taught how to have, take care of, and protect. But, many times, we need to untie the cords that bind us.
These are the cords that don’t make you happy, that exhaust you.