Wishing good things and embracing everything and everyone good around us might not be something we all practice daily.
First of all, it’s because people often prefer that “everyone does well but not as well as me.”
The kind of noble, pure, and selfless desires are not seen every day. People are more inclined to wish the best for themselves and for the people closest to them.
Now…why do we struggle to promote these kinds of thoughts and wishes to every one equally – doesn’t that seem right?
Something you need to bear in mind is that many of your actions, words, and behaviors have consequences.
The same goes for desires.
A desire is the visualization of your motives and a longing to act. If you want good things to occur for someone, you also do your best to make it happen, and you’ll do so with conviction because it’s what you truly feel.
Good wishes therefore enrich you as a person. They cost nothing and do so much because they transform your thoughts and mind, eliminating a lot of burdens and negative focus.
We encourage you to think about this in today’s article.
Good will within positive thinking
That classic idea that “what goes around comes around” has always had a basis in reality.
Far from seeing this as a deterministic concept, however, you should think of it more like every action has its consequences.
Cultivating positive thoughts each day is synonymous with health. You don’t talk about spiritual issues or practice kindness arbitrarily, but rather because it relates to your particular religious or spiritual approach in life.
- Having positive thoughts means to focus your life in the most fruitful way. If you want good things to come for your family and friends, you’re showing that you love them and care about their welfare.
- But the real problem appears when there are people who “want the worst” for those that they don’t like. What’s the point? What do you gain by this? Anyone who enjoys watching people whose values don’t fit their own is certainly immature.
- Just remember the stages of moral development of children, as described by Lawrence Kohlberg.
When a child is six or seven years old they only have one moral code, which states that “the people I like deserve the best, and those I don’t like should be punished.”
This approach is not constructive, nor is it socially appropriate. You’re not required to get along with everyone. But not getting along doesn’t mean you should wish someone failure or unhappiness.
It’s better that you wish them the best in their personal journey. At the same time, you follow your own path and hope that they don’t cross, while still wishing the best for everyone.
What you do, think, and desire always comes back to you
Some call this the “law of causality,” others the “boomerang effect.” These terms can be translated into something that’s easy to understand.
- Your thoughts and actions always have consequences. A word spoken at the wrong time can make a person that you love walk away.
- Wishing something bad to happen to someone can, over the long-term, cause others to abandon you because you’re spiteful and because evil desires make them uncomfortable, speaking volumes about the person who harbors them.
- Everything that you say, do, or desire leaves its mark on the environment around you. So remember to think about the effects your words have before speaking.
Before you do something, think about the consequences, and above all wish for good things for the people around you. It’s like planting noble seeds that will enrich you as a person.
You are free to create your future
Buddha told us that that “if you want to know your present, look at your past, because this is the result; but if you want to know your future, look at your present, because there will be the cause.”
- This idea translates into something as simple as it is wise. You are a free agent and the architect of your own reality. Everything that you do has consequences, as you know, and this is how you shape your future little by little.
- Only by wishing the best for the people around you will you shape your emotions, your way of understanding life.
An approach that’s based on reciprocity and recognition of others opens your mind and nourishes your heart.
In turn, the person who creates an environment around them that’s filled with positivity and empathy enriches their emotional well-being. This allows you to build a more hopeful and positive future for all.
It’s worth remembering.