Do You Struggle with Jealousy in Your Relationship?

April 16, 2019
Often, when you're jealous, it makes you act in strange ways. People who struggle with jealousy try to control all aspects of their partner's lives so that they can't be unfaithful. Do you struggle with jealousy in your relationship?

Do you struggle with jealousy in your relationship?

Occasionally struggling with jealousy is okay in a relationship. However, when it gets out of control, it can affect the emotional health of both people.

Therefore, it’s essential to learn to identify it, since you may not always notice it. Knowing how jealousy grows and taking measures to deal with it is essential so that you don’t suffer the consequences.

Signs to Know If You Struggle with Jealousy in Your Relationship

Jealously stems from the fear of losing your loved one. However, it takes this fear to the next level and can cause conflicts in your relationship.

The worst thing is that it tends to get worse as time goes on. In fact, it can cause a noticeable problem living together, as well as respecting and loving each other.

Next, we’ll take a look at the signs of jealousy in a relationship.

The Signs of Jealousy

You Try to Control Your Partner’s Privacy

If you struggle with jealousy, then you might feel like you have a right to know all of your partner's information.

Jealous people don’t respect their partner’s privacy. They often feel like it’s their “right” to know all about their partner’s private life.

Also, they may get very worried that there’s another person in their partner’s life. This makes them constantly  check their phone, social networks, and any other type of communication possible.

In fact, doing this has serious consequences. Even finding a “hello” or conversations with friends can make you crazy and feel threatened.

Also check out: Is Infidelity Different for Men and Women?

You Distrust Coworkers

It’s true that there are situations with friends or colleagues in which a little bit of jealousy is justified. However, if you don’t know how to control this feeling, you may start to assume things that aren’t actually happening.

Then, any attention or sympathy for someone of the opposite sex is assumed to be flirting. Then, you get angry, even if your partner was just being nice.

You Limit Your Partner’s Social Life

Couple arguing.

Jealousy often makes people want to control their partner’s social life. Typically, people who struggle with jealousy do this when their partner wants to spend time with their friends or family, or even call someone.

They may constantly ask questions about his/her social life, such as: Who are you talking to? Why are you laughing at what your friends are saying? Where are you going? How long will you be gone?

In fact, people that struggle with jealousy may not even want their partner to spend time with friends. Sometimes, they may even ask them to cancel their plans to do something as a couple instead.

You Call Constantly

It’s one thing to call a few times a day to ask how everything’s going. It’s another thing to call constantly to check in on every single thing your partner is doing.

Also, people who struggle with jealousy may check to see if their partner is where s/he said he is. Therefore, this can make you stressed out and anxious.

You Invent Infidelity

When people struggle with jealousy, they could start imagining the worst case scenario about everything.

Sometimes, jealousy can start to get out of control. This happens when people start to imagine that their partner is unfaithful just because they aren’t by their side all the time.

Therefore, this makes people who struggle with jealousy invent infidelities. Often, they can’t separate their fears and made-up scenarios from reality.

People Who Struggle with Jealousy Change Their Lifestyles

Many people think that if they just spend more time with their partner, they can prevent infidelity. In fact, they’ll even change their lifestyle to seem more available to their partner so they can spend more time together.

Therefore, jealous people try to control lots of their partner’s time. For this, they may even make their partner’s schedules and tries to take up all of his/her free time.

They Feel Uncomfortable About the Way They Dress

Unhappy couple

In fact, jealousy can be triggered simply by the way your partner dresses. You might feel annoyed because your partner is dressing up when you won’t be going out with him.

It’s common to hear phrases like: Why are you doing your hair if you’re not going out? Why are you putting on makeup? Why are you wearing that if you’re just going to see your friends? Why are you gone so much? 

Also check out: How to Recognize When Your Partner Is Cheating on You

People Who Struggle with Jealousy Confuse This Behavior with Love

This is probably the main characteristic of people that struggle with jealousy. They always justify their behaviors by saying they do it because they love their partner.

Jealous people often explain that all of the criticism and frustration is just because they’re worrying about the person they love. That way, they continue to manipulate the other person.

Naturally, however, this isn’t love, and true love involves trust and freedom.

Do you struggle with jealousy? Do you feel that your jealousy or your partner’s is getting out of control? Be careful! Although it’s normal to feel jealousy sometimes, it’s important to pay attention so it doesn’t affect your relationship.

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