'Friends' You Should Avoid On Social Media and in Life
If you’re used to using social media networks, I’m sure you already know the phrase “delete friend.” Sometimes we accumulate people in virtual circles that we don’t truly know. If these relationships bring us more issues than benefits, then they are people you should avoid.
Today, especially for young people, friendships commonly end this way. People who don’t exist on social networks, don’t exist in your life. It’s cold and somewhat impersonal to break these ties.
So using this example, there are a lot of us that should also do the same in real life. Sometimes we carry relationships on our backs that greatly hamper our personal growth.
This doesn’t mean that you need to go knocking on doors and letting people know that you don’t want anything to do with them. It just means that you need to know how to recognize the people you should avoid. Distance yourself and not invest time and effort in people that don’t deserve it.
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Knowing when you should avoid your ‘friends’
It’s not always easy to realize when you stop being important to someone. Not only that, but they could also lose respect for you, and then their needs become more selfish.
Learn the difference:
- Differentiate between people that genuinely need you and those that have actually “disconnected” from your heart.
- Children may, in truth, always need you; but there will always come a time when they stop needing you. This has to do with their own maturity, and ability to be independent.
- Some friendships come up suddenly whenever someone has selfish needs. Whenever they need a favor, when they need to be heard and “only you know how to listen.”
Show support, fondness, and understanding to your friends, but only when this is reciprocated.
Friendships, just like any kind of relationships, are based on a sincere exchange of emotions, thoughts, and support:
- If you don’t feel any of these dimensions and you see that the individual only looks for you when they want something, then you shouldn’t have any qualms setting limits.
- This isn’t about breaking ties overnight.
- The truth is, all you need to do is truly state how you feel and set limits.
“I can’t do this because it’s just not good for me,” or, “I noticed that you only want to be friends when you need something. I’d like you to recognize me as a person more.”
The pleasure of truly being important to someone
Don’t worry if, over time, you’ve had to avoid people who you don’t need. That’s the reality of life.
You will move forward in life with the minimum amount of things, with what is truly important and makes your heart big.
Those that walk with a light mind and a bigger heart will enjoy greater happiness, which is why you shouldn’t have any qualms about leaving people behind that you truly are not important to.
There will be moments when you feel true pain when realizing that someone very important to you has stopped seeing you as important. Perhaps they have stopped recognizing you or needing you.
You are your best friend and you can’t avoid that
Healing after this discovery takes time but, you need to remember that the greatest love in your life should always be yourself.
If you don’t love or respect yourself, you won’t be able to open the door to second chances.
There are only a few people around that are truly important to you, but of course, they are the best. You don’t need to “accumulate people,” as you do on social networks. In real life, we prioritize and love what we have in front of us:
- People that truly need you will show you. They will do so wholly, without being selfish or blackmailing you. These people love you, respect you, and know how to establish the daily exchange where both parties win and nobody loses.
- Never forget to reciprocate your love and attention.
Making people around us see that we need them is a powerful way to recognize them. This makes them feel useful and important.
People need a lot of things to survive: food, shelter, warmth, a home, and moments of fun and freedom. So never forget that the most important things in life aren’t “things,” they’re people.
This is why it’s so important to know how to care for, recognize, and of course, to avoid people that only cause you harm and stop your personal growth.
Make yourself a priority. Look out for yourself every day and for the people who really care about you.