Depression: 5 Things You Know About It That Outsiders Don’t
Forget all of the preconceptions you have about depression. Understand that someone who is depressed isn't depressed because it's their choice; it is a mental illness.
“Yes, you have depression.”
The words your psychologist or psychiatrist may have said to you at one time probably confirm a diagnosis that you already knew long before you sought help.
Rates of depression keep going up. It’s as if the more social and technological advances our society makes, the more disconnection we have become with happiness.
In fact, one common complaint of people facing depression is how mental illnesses is considered trivial.
It’s like you get the diagnosis and it’s treated with the same importance as if your doctor was telling you that you have high blood pressure or gout.
Sometimes it seems like all of us who are working so hard to get out of our personal black holes inevitably face a social structure that still sees depression as an easy problem to fix with just a trip to the pharmacy.
The fact is that we’re talking about a subject that’s as delicate as it is complex. We invite you to think about it with us. If you’ve ever gone through depression, these 5 aspects will be very familiar.
1. I have NOT given up; I’m not weak
One thing that anyone who’s had depression understands, and anyone who has not will get is that this mental disorder doesn’t happen to you because you gave up or couldn’t face life.
- Something you need to know is that people suffering from depression already blame themselves for what’s happening.
If you make them think that it’s their fault, letting themselves “give up,” you’re just piling on the guilt.
- The personal environment of a person with anxiety, depression, or acts as a “catalyst” and make the symptoms even worse.
- This is a mental disorder that doesn’t appear spontaneously due to an inappropriate reaction to a stressful environment. It builds over time.
Most of the time depression has multiple triggers.
They may even be biological, due to a deficiency in certain neurotransmitters.
2. No, I won’t be better in a month and no, my medication isn’t a placebo
Another false belief people have is assuming that these psychological processes can be resolved with just a few pills.
- Medication doesn’t fix the problem by itself.
- We’re a society with sky-high cholesterol and low positivity. None of this is resolved simply by popping a pill.
- We’re also not talking about an illness that is treated and disappears within a few months.
- Depression is generally a recurring illness.
This means that you’ll need a proper psychological plan so you can learn to use techniques regularly in your life to handle situations.
That’s why you also need the support of your family and friends.
If they keep saying the same old, “How are you? Don’t worry, you’ll be over it by next month,” they’ll just be intensifying your anxiety.
3. I have depression, and it’s not caused by sadness
Associating sadness with depression is a classic mistake. We need to clarify some things:
- Sadness is an emotion based on experiencing negative situations: losing a loved one, when something we really wanted didn’t happen…
- Sadness comes and goes. It’s like happiness, disgust, anger…
- However, depression is an ILLNESS, and it entails recurring thoughts marked by sadness, but also loss of interest in things, suicidal fantasies, fear, guilt…
It’s a very complex and personal maze where sadness is just one pathway in the dark.
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4. I want to be alone, but I don’t want you to go
Another aspect of depression that many people don’t know about is the contradictory feeling of wanting to isolate yourself and be alone but also feeling the need for others at the same time.
This psychological and emotional reality isn’t anything a person with this illness will say out loud.
So it is essential for those around them to learn to be intuitive, receptive, and supportive in a nonjudgmental way, to be there and to help.
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5. It’s not all just in my head
We’re sure there are still some people out there who haven’t experienced the built-up exhaustion, the chronic stress, or persistent insomnia that can gradually lead to depression.
- It’s not just in your head. Sometimes this illness is in a tired body, a chemically imbalanced brain, or in disorders like fibromyalgia.
When your body suffers, your mind suffers too and this you can’t forget. Keep these things in mind and you’ll be able to interact with people suffering from depression with more empathy.