Colorful Umbrellas for Cloudy Days
On cloudy days, you need to open an emotional umbrella to protect yourself and to help you get up and keep fighting. We'll show you how.
For cloudy days…colorful umbrellas. The truth is, and sometimes we don’t know why, but after a gray day, an even darker one often seems to come. Then another, until they all come together and we feel like our whole life is caving in.
This is normal. Believe it or not, but you’re not the only person that feels like nothing ever goes right for you.
We all go through difficult times of personal anguish. No matter how high the sun is in the sky, it seems like it just isn’t shining on you.
Sometimes you don’t even need anything “bad” to happen to you. It’s more or less a slow, deep apathy, an uncomfortable malaise that puts you in a bad mood, and even causes you to lose hope.
For those days, what you definitely need is a colorful umbrella. These are invisible shields that help protect you from toxic people, negative thoughts, fear and worry. We suggest you open it more and more every day, and we’ll explain how.
Your emotional umbrellas on cloudy days
Emotional umbrellas are impassable barriers that protect your self-esteem and also add color to those gray emotions.
Something to keep in mind is that we all have the right to experience dark days. Embracing your demons and recognizing your fears is undoubtedly therapeutic: it allows you to get to know yourself better.
But after hitting rock bottom, you absolutely must get up. And you’ll be motivated by renewed strength, with more intense hope. Because remember: the day you wake up without hope is a day lost.
Martin Seligman is a renowned psychologist who teaches positive psychology. It’s actually really interesting to study his professional trajectory. For some time, he only ever dealt with topics to do with depression. He even coined important terms, like learned helplessness.
But he slowly realized that most of the areas of psychology lent towards illness, or the more complex dimensions of negative emotions.
Up until then, no one had bothered to teach about what it is to “be happy,” to let the breeze of happiness take you, free from your dark storms and cloudy days.
Read more: 6 Remedies to Treat Depression Naturally
Since then, thanks to books like “Authentic Happiness” or “Learned Optimism“, Seligman has offered wonderful strategies for creating well-being. This is the vital energy innate in self-improvement and happiness.
We’ll explain below what the 5 steps are that, according to Seligman, build happiness. These help to open your colorful umbrellas on cloudy days. This technique is called “PERMA” and corresponds to each of these keys.
P – Positive Emotions
The more positive emotions you have, the happier you are. It seems too obvious of a rule, but…how can you achieve this?
- Change your thoughts and you will create a new emotion.
- Start with small things…the most basic things. Something so basic as getting out of bed thinking “today is going to be a good day” could be enough.
- Another suggestion could be, for example, “I’m not going to let what that person says affect me” or “today I’m going to look after myself, and make myself a priority.”
E – Engagement
In this key, Martin Seligman proposes the following: being able to positively engage yourself in every daily activity.
Try it. Even though your work might be routine or slightly boring, try to see these obligations in another light, with another perspective.
R – Relationship
Your day-to-day relationships could be a major point of happiness, or conversely, they could be what causes you your greatest headache.
Open your colorful umbrellas once again to protect yourself from people that want to bring you problems, worry, or anguish. Distance yourself. Then, get close to people who truly enrich your life, that bring you happiness and light.
M – Meaning
This dimension is slightly more complex, but easily understood. This is about becoming involved in things that give you meaning, and a sense of usefulness.
Feeling useful while also comfortable and hopeful, with certain projects or people, can help your well-being flourish every day.
Find something that motivates you, that brings you hope, and that makes you feel good and useful about yourself.
A – Accomplishment
Feeling like you’re capable of reaching your goals, like you’re skilled, and that your efforts are reimbursed… these all bring happiness.
See also: Self-Esteem: The Key to Happiness
The key is to be persistent. You can’t lose hope or drive. Dance every day under your colorful umbrellas that protect you from the cloudy days.