How Your Child Reacts When You Start Potty Training

Parents commonly ask themselves when the right time to wean their child off diapers is. Age isn't a determining factor. It all depends on if the child is mature enough for potty training.
How Your Child Reacts When You Start Potty Training

Last update: 14 June, 2021

Starting potty training is one of the processes that marks a major milestone in your baby’s independence. How your baby will react when you start weaning them off diapers will depend on whether you do it at the right time or not.

Typically, although you may not believe it, children end up learning to control their bowels and bladder sooner than expected. Some may take a little longer, while others achieve it within weeks, even days.

As we always say, the important thing is to always remember that each child is different. They’ll reach this milestone when they’re mature enough to do so.

How to Tell if Your Baby is Ready to Start Potty Training

There are children who start hiding when they need to pee or poop. Others hold their urine in for more than three hours. These are the indicators that your baby is ready to be weaned off diapers.

On the other hand, there are children who just want to relieve themselves in diapers. If that’s the case, then they’re not ready to be weaned off diapers. You can’t force your child to do so. The prudent thing is to wait to do it until the right time.

You can see if your child is ready or not after two or three months. The first step is to prepare your child. Start telling them what will happen at some time and show them stories with drawings or photos you can use to explain what they’ll do and what you expect of them.

What’s the best age to start potty training?

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If you try to wean your baby off diapers when they’re a year and a half to two years old, it’s very likely you’ll have a harder time doing so than if they were older. However, you can try.

Some one-and-a-half-year-old children don’t like wearing diapers because they bother them and cause chaffing. This is, in theory, the perfect time to start weaning them off diapers. You can try not putting a diaper on them to see what happens. Being patient and cheering them on are the keys to this process.

As indicated by this publication from the Federation of Teaching by CC.OO in Andalusia, the ideal age statistically to start potty training is usually between 2 and 3 years old when children are able to name their droppings and tell adults that they need to pee or poop.

You should also read this article: Should You Wake Your Baby to Change Their Diaper?

What if They React Negatively to the Potty Training?

Many parents wonder why their children don’t want to start potty training. Children aren’t aware they’re wearing a diaper. Potty training is a big challenge.

Modern disposable diapers are highly absorbent. Thus, the child hardly feels any discomfort when they pee or poop. When we want to wean them off diapers, they often get scared because they don’t yet understand what’s happening.

Other babies get scared when they sit on the toilet, so the use of a toilet seat adapter is essential so the baby doesn’t feel uncomfortable and refuses to sit there. It’s also a good idea to incorporate a step stool so your child’s feet aren’t left hanging.

How to Wean Your Child Off Diapers and Start Potty Training

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First of all, children who are ready to start potty training should be able to follow directions. You have to start slowly. First of all, try asking them to pull their underwear or diaper up and down. Then, start asking them to do harder things, such as taking their diaper off and then immediately sitting on the toilet.

Another way to interest them in the process is to involve them in the potty training equipment decisions. All you have to do is research and try out different things until you find what’s most comfortable for them.

When you have chosen the right equipment, let your child choose their favorite color and a design that catches their eye. They’ll love the fact that they made it their own.

Are you ready for accidents?

It’s completely normal for your child to have a few accidents on their diaper weaning journey. They can have accidents such as not arriving at the toilet on time or peeing or pooping themselves.

How you address these accidents is very important. Remember that they won’t learn how to control their bowels and bladder overnight.

Avoid scolding them because accidents happen. Keep a positive attitude. Your reaction to these accidents is very important because your child expects you to support them.

Some parents decide to wean their children off diapers both during the day and night. Putting a diaper on your child at night may be best so you don’t have to change so many sheets and to ensure it’s an easier transition for them.

However, if you choose to not put a diaper on them at night, we suggest placing disposable bed mats on their bed and removing them if they have an accident.

Are There Differences Between Boys and Girls?

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Yes. Until the age of 3, child development in both boys and girls is quite similar. However, when children reach the age of 4, some differences become noticeable.

On one hand, testosterone levels in children duplicate when they turn 3. On the other hand, social influences affect and direct children in different ways.

These differences can also affect potty training. Girls develop faster than boys during their first years of life, meaning they reach development milestones faster.

However, from a psychological perspective, boys are often more willing to face new challenges and tend to react better to the new challenge of stopping wearing diapers.

What are the differences?

It’s no wonder that many girls potty train faster than boys. They often develop language faster, which allows them to tell adults when they need to urinate or evacuate.

A point in favor of boys during this process is that they don’t need much cautionary hygiene. For girls, going to the bathroom in public places is more complicated. This leads many parents to decide to wait to wean their daughters off diapers a bit more.

Girls learn potty training routines faster. Their cognitive development allows them to learn the different steps to start using the bathroom more easily. Boys have a harder time with this than girls.

In Summary

During the potty training process, whether for boys or girls, the most important thing is patience. Potty training is a big step, so it’s important to show your child love and understanding. Remember that they’re just kids and are learning. And you, the parent, are also learning to better educate your children.

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