Caresses Nourish the Heart

· August 7, 2016
Caresses reinforce bonds, transmit feelings and emotions. However, we don't practice this wonderful show of affection as often we we should.

Caresses are a way to show affection and strengthen relationships, awaken feelings, emotions and simple pleasures. Our skin contains countless receptors that relieve anxiety, increase feelings of happiness and reaffirm bonds.

Now we realize that not all caresses are welcome and that not all physical contact is comfortable or pleasant. Caresses are reserved especially for those who hold a place in our hearts. And believe it or not, they’re almost like an essential form of “nourishment.”

A baby needs caresses to feel loved and for its brain’s structures to properly develop. In turn, a partner that doesn’t understand the wise art of touch cannot fully appreciate a relationship – those simple gestures and kind words that do wonders for two people as a couple.

We would like to talk more today about the health benefits associated with caresses and simple acts of affection.

Caressing with the senses and the heart

Your skin contains over 5 million nerve endings that transmit the feelings and sensations that you receive from your environment.

The skin transmits sensations of cold, heat, revulsion, pleasure, moods and many types of emotions. Think of the healing caress of a mother on her child, that of a friend offering their support, or that of your partner to show their genuine love and affection.

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We also can’t forget this obvious fact: all living beings seek out and enjoy the touch of others. Animals caress each other, and our pets show affection towards us as well. It’s a type of language that comes directly from the emotional brain, which understands the benefits of touch.

Caresses are the art of empathy

Whoever offers their caresses understands that this action is pleasant, that feeling the skin of the one you love builds a positive and healthy relationship.

  • Now we must point out that some people tend to associate caresses exclusively with foreplay, or the first stages of sexual stimulation and arousal.
  • The art of caressing isn’t reserved exclusively for sex; it’s an essential part of human communication. It’s a way to share a bond, whether it be with a family member, close friend or significant other.
  • I caress you because I know you need it, because I know it will help you to feel supported, loved and appreciated. This all reflects empathy coming from someone who wants only to help you feel better. However, we must also keep in mind that some people can use caresses and hugs as in a subtle form of selfishness that can be problematic.


Oxytocin, living beings’ relationship glue

Oxytocin, on top of being a hormone, is a neurotransmitter. It could be defined as the “glue” that binds living beings together by promoting love, affection and care; reducing stress; strengthening the bond between couples and between mother and child.

  • Oxytocin is produced in the hypothalamus and is secreted by the pituitary gland before being dispersed throughout the entire body.
  • This fascinating chemical encourages behaviors like empathy, caring, compassion, as well as increasing sexual desire and even milk production in breastfeeding mothers.
  • The more oxytocin in our bodies, the less aggressive our behavior. It’s truly amazing.

Also read: Hug Me So Hard It Crushes My Uncertainty


Letting go of the fear of touching the ones we love

Some people are shy, insecure and unaccustomed to physical contact. This may make it hard for them to build enriching relationships with others if they avoid the use of this type of communication.

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Love that is not expressed through touching, cuddling, kissing or hugging is a half-empty type of love that often leaves behind many victims in its wake. These people are missing out.

  • Don’t hesitate to employ this type of communication without words. Give these everyday gestures a try. A caress on the cheek, hand, a hug in the morning or when saying goodbye, or an unexpected kiss are the little things that keep us together.
  • Don’t forget to create a special bond with your children by making sure they receive skin to skin contact with their mother as babies and plenty of hugs and caresses as they get older.
  • We know there will come a time when they’ll avoid it out of pride, but everyone enjoys being caressed by a loved one.

It’s a gesture that shows your support, like saying “I’ll always be there for you” or “you’re an important part of my life.”