Are you worried about what others think?
Always trying to please others or making decisions to get the approval of others can wear you out so much that it ruins your happiness.
You’ll plunge yourself into a loop of sadness and desolation, because other people have very different opinions. Sometimes, you’ll even feel confused. Who do I listen to; who should I ignore?
The good news is that you can change this. There are certain things you do without realizing it that give away this concern for what others think of you.
Stop evaluating yourself through the eyes of others.
Evaluating yourself through the eyes of others clearly shows that you have a self-esteem problem.
If someone tells you that you’re attractive today, you feel attractive. However, if the next day they say the opposite, you change your opinion.
This stops you from seeing yourself as you are. You end up obsessed with how others see you and worrying a lot about your appearance.
Start looking in the mirror and paying attention to your own opinion of yourself. Leave the opinions of others to one side.
Your opinion should always come first, because it’s the most important one.
You don’t have to be perfect.
When you start worrying about what others think of you, you start adopting different habits to create the image of the perfect person.
Of course, this is impossible and will exhaust you.
You start saying sorry when you’re not to blame for anything, because you assume responsibilities that aren’t yours.
Your obsession with being perfect will make you feel guilty about pretty much anything because you won’t tolerate the least mistake.
You’ll change your plans to please others.
For example, if one day you’re at home and you don’t feel like going out but your friends want to make plans, you’ll force yourself into going to please them and to not have to come up with an excuse.
Saying “I don’t feel like it” isn’t an option. After all, you want to be perfect. Thus, you’ll always prioritize others and do things you don’t want to do to please them.
Above all, you’ll always be stressed because you’re trying to get along with everyone around you. Then, any time it seems you aren’t getting along with someone, you’ll get anxious.
You don’t need to be perfect, and you can’t expect to get along with everyone. It’s a huge mistake not doing what you feel like in order to look good to others.
Start by thinking more about yourself, about what you really feel. You have nothing to lose by trying this new way of acting.
Start making decisions with confidence.
All the above makes you suffer from terrible insecurity in every decision you have to make.
They don’t necessarily have to be important ones. Even in small, simple things, you’ll doubt yourself.
Why does this happen to you?
It happens because you always have the spotlight focused on others and you’re concerned about how they’ll react to your decisions. You’re afraid that they won’t approve what you’ve chosen, so you second guess yourself.
Instead, try thinking that what you’re deciding is for yourself, not for others. Put the spotlight on yourself and don’t doubt yourself. Many successful people didn’t have the support of others around them at the time, and in the end, it became clear that the decision they made was the best they could have made.
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If you think about it, what others think isn’t so important: it’s much more important what you think of yourself.
Prioritize yourself. Stop putting others first and allowing your decisions to depend on the reactions of others.
The responsibility of how you lead your life is yours alone, because at the end of the day the path you walk is yours and it is your feet that are walking.
Don’t let yourself be worried about what others think. Instead, give more importance to yourself.