What it Really Means to Be a Good Person

· May 22, 2017
Being a good person starts with yourself. Start taking care of yourself and your health and then you'll be able to spread it to those around you.

Sometimes, it’s hard to be a good person.

Some people think it makes them look foolish or weak. However, this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

It takes patience, strength and self-control to consistently be a good person. Being a good person may be challenging, but when you’re a good person, don’t you feel better?

It’s much easier to be happy – and healthy – when you always try to find the good in others. 

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Being a good person doesn’t mean being a fool

Don't let others make you unhappy just to feel like you're a good person.

Being a good person is sometimes confused with being a fool. This might cause you to believe that you have to act the same as people who mistreat you.

However, it’s important that you always remember to make smart decisions regardless of the behavior of others. Here are some tips to prevent others from taking advantage of you:

  • Don’t let anyone get hurt, including yourself. If someone is abusing you, then your health is in danger. Reporting this abuse won’t make you a bad person. It means that you’re smart enough to take care of yourself and your relationships. Reporting abuse and getting help is the right thing to do.
  • Don’t let toxic people manipulate you. It’s not good for you to put up with uncomfortable situations just to make other people happy. Don’t let others manipulate you.
  • Never be the martyr. You may think that being a good person means suffering and putting up with situations that you don’t like. However, this isn’t true at all. You don’t need to carry the problems of others around with you. Instead, you just need to show them some patience and kindness when you have to be together. 

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Don’t let people hurt you for the sake of kindness. You deserve respect, love, and attention just as much as everyone else.

Be a good person to yourself

Being a good person means being good to yourself.

Being a good person isn’t just an outward-oriented attitude. You need to consider your needs and treat yourself well, too!

You’ve probably heard that if you want to love another, you first need to love yourself. Well, this is exactly what we’re talking about.

That’s why our first point is so important. If you want to keep people from taking advantage of you and avoid being taking for a fool, you need to be good to yourself.

This implies valuing yourself and respecting yourself above all else. It means saving yourself before helping others.

This is not a selfish act. It’s just what you deserve.

You may mistakenly believe that considering your own needs is negative behavior. But this is neither correct nor good.

Over time, you’ll end up exhausted from being humiliated and lied to, tired of being manipulated and loved only when it’s convenient for others.

We’re all human. You’ll end up turning into a victim or even the exact opposite of a good person. We all get tired of being taken advantage of.

Being a good person isn’t what you thought

Being a good person doesn't mean letting others walk all over you.

We’re often very wrong when it comes to our beliefs about what is good and right.

Remember that mistakes aren’t negative, but positive ways of moving forward? Well, the same thing is happening here.

Now, we’ll touch on a few things that will open your eyes to the reality of what it means to be a good person.

When necessary, leave

You may think that not abandoning people who are hurting you is the right thing to do. However, if you don’t feel right, if they are manipulating you, or they’re making you unhappy, then you should leave.

You have a right to say what you think

Telling others what they want to hear will go against what you really think and want to say. Don’t lie to yourself or to them.

Always be sincere, even if they don’t take it well and may even be hurt.

You can say “no” whenever you want

Saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad person. After all, you have your own obligations and problems. You don’t need to sacrifice your time for others if you can’t or just don’t want to.

You don’t have to be perfect

You don't have to be perfect to be a good person.

Good people don’t have to be right about everything. They make mistakes and get things wrong just like everyone else. Learn from it all and don’t deny or reject it.

This will make you even better!

Remember that being good doesn’t mean being a victim or letting others take advantage of you. Value yourself, love yourself, and learn from your mistakes every day.

Remember that just because you’re good doesn’t mean you have to be foolish.

Tesh, M., Learman, J., & Pulliam, R. M. (2015). Mindful Self-Compassion Strategies for Survivors of Intimate Partner Abuse. Mindfulness. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-013-0244-4