8 things you should never do with a baby

November 2, 2018

Being a mother is a complex task, and one thing you should know is what things you should never do with a baby. With a lot of love and patience, you will go through this stage of your life with flying colors.

When you’re pregnant, you get a lot of advice from other experienced mothers and grandmothers. But that doesn’t mean they are all right.

It’s true that being a mother is a difficult job, especially the first time around, but it’s not impossible. With the right information and some help and practice, you’ll be well-equipped to help your child grow up healthy and happy. Now read on for things you should never do with a baby.

Things you should never do with a baby

1. Let them cry for a long time

As a mother, you will surely have moments when you’re very busy. But remember that your baby needs your care all the time and that they’re trying to communicate with you and make you pay attention. Crying is the only way they have to express their needs.

Letting your baby cry for a long time can be harmful. He’ll feel distressed, and this may increase his stress levels, causing dependence, insecurity and possible damage to his emotional and intellectual development.

crying baby: things you should never do with a baby.

However, by always attending to and communicating with your little one, you’ll be strengthening their trust in you. In the future, he won’t be a child with self-esteem issues but rather a well-adjusted person.

2. Lay them face down to sleep

In the past, people said that laying babies on their tummies helped them expel gas and that it prevented suffocation due to vomiting. However, current knowledge says the contrary; it actually increases their chances of sudden death by asphyxiation. Laying your baby face up is the best way to avoid unnecessary risks.

3. Leave them alone without paying attention

It’s a serious mistake to believe that babies are too small to move if you leave them alone. But one common cause of falls is when parents leave their baby alone on a changing table or other surface. It’s easy for them to roll off and get really hurt.

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4. Shake or jostle them

Parents often shake their baby playfully or to make them stop crying, and sometimes it works. However, it can cause irreversible damage.

Shaking or jostling small children can cause Shaken Baby Syndrome. This syndrome is defined as a trauma where the brain moves back and forth inside the skull. It can cause:

  • Bruises and hemorrhages
  • Blindness
  • Hearing loss and speech disorders
  • Damage to the neck
  • Permanent brain damage
  • Death

5. Physical punishments

If you think your baby is misbehaving, you should not slap him on the buttock or on the hand. What you should do is look him in the eye and speak to him in a firm voice. Punishing him physically can result in an aggressive child with low self-esteem.

Of equal importance, his confidence will go down because he feels uneasy in the presence of his parents. Poor intellectual growth and low motivation to learn new things are other possible results.

6. Not burping him

You must make sure your baby burps after eating in order to let out the gases that his body produces after feeding. If you don’t, the child may be in pain, which means he will cry and having trouble sleeping.

7. Feed him different foods

giving your baby a bottle

It is a very common mistake to feed a baby food other than his mother’s milk or formula prescribed by a doctor. But a baby’s digestive system is developing still in his first months of life. For this reason, feeding him other types of food could give him a food allergy or intolerance.

8. Let him come into contact with bacteria and viruses

Another thing you should never do with babies is to hold them or touch them with unwashed hands. You should wash your hands several times a day. This way you can effectively avoid the spread of diseases by bacteria and viruses.

Equally important is to stay away from people who have even mild flu or cold symptoms because if your baby get infected, it could end in complications such as pneumonia, bronchitis, or other severe respiratory problems.

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We suggest getting advice directly from a specialist whenever you have any doubts about what things you should do and what things you should never do with a baby. This will avoid confusion and mixed information.

If you’re worried about how to take care of your baby, don’t hesitate to ask for help from someone with experience. But more than anything, remember that the most important thing is to give your baby a lot of love and make him feel like you will always be there for him.

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