8 Mistakes Men Make During Sex

July 8, 2015

Let’s talk openly here. The truth is women love to have sex as much, if not more than men. Of course, we only fully enjoy ourselves when our sexual partner does pleasures us. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Many men consider themselves better in bed than they actually are. However, speak to women and you will realize there are many mistakes men make during sex.

Today, sex is talked about more openly among partners and friends. It is normal to hear a man tell his colleague why he is an “expert” in the subject. Nonetheless, women often remain unsatisfied. Truth be told, men rarely notice. Many women, tend to be discrete and a little “nice” in order to spare their feelings.

Communication plays a very important role in revealing preferences, fantasies, and desires in relationships. However, couples often fail at this. There are many myths, cultural trends, and mistakes that lead men to think they’re doing well in bed when in reality their partner is not fully enjoying themselves.

In this article, we’ll share some of the most common mistakes men make during sex, for men who may be overconfident in thinking they are great in bed. Read on to learn about the common mistakes men make during sex.

Please, caress well or don’t at all

The clitoris is much more complicated than the penis, but there is no doubt that it is one of our greatest weaknesses during sex. Men, be more gentle while touching the clitoris. It is a very sensitive part of the body that you need to know how to stimulate correctly. The majority of men tend to be rough when you touch, without realizing this simply “blocks” the pleasure we want to feel.

Learn to play with our breasts

The majority of us love our breasts to be touched as it is one of the most sensitive parts of the body. However, some men touch in an extremely rough way, as if they were balls, or who knows what; once again blocking what we want to feel. It is true that passion makes us crazy and all that… but please be a little more gentle.

Note: it’s not quantity but quality

This is another one of the big mistakes men make. The majority of men value quantity over quality. They associate the capacity of having more than one orgasm with youth and virility. Numbers are very important to many men since they can be measured and compared and make them feel better. However, they remain unaware of the fact that quality is much more important for women.

You don’t dedicate enough time to foreplay

Dear men: penetration is not the only pleasurable part of sex. Don’t expect us to feel satisfied if that is all you do. We have bodies full of weak spots ready to explore, which is why you can rest assured that if you don’t explore them, the woman won’t be satisfied.

Read on: The Female Erogenous Zones

Don’t over “spank”

A spank at the peak of passion isn’t bad and can even excite someone sexually.  Yet spanking after spanking as if you are about to whip off her rear end crosses a line and is no longer good.

Whispers make it better

If you are making love, there is nothing better than an “I love you” or any number of sweet words.  However, you almost always get carried away with rough and carnal sex. Don’t say “Do you like it?” “Am I doing okay?”… Just cut it out and don’t bore us.  Forget about worrying if we like it, and you will likely figure it out.

Don’t eat our ears

How could a slobbery ear possibly be erotic?  It’s true, the ear can often be a sensitive part of the body, but please… don’t overdo it. A light caress with the tongue will do. No one enjoys someone practically eating their ear and leaving it full of slobber.

Learn more about stimulation: Sensory Simulation: Sense That Give Us Sexual Pleasure

Don’t suck our big toes

What kind of weird fetish is this?!  Most of us don’t enjoy this, and it isn’t normal at all. For many, nothing is grosser than feet.

Some mistakes men make during sex

And you? Would you add any mistakes men make during sex to this list?

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