7 Toxic People You Should Avoid to Be Happy

November 1, 2018
It’s important to remind yourself that not everyone is going to like you, so stop paying attention to people who don’t deserve it and focus on those who care about you

In life we’re not always surrounded by the right people all the time, and the pessimistic attitudes of toxic people can cause you to feel even worse.

Toxic people aren’t able to appreciate the positive things around them, and they just make things more complicated. Being able to identify toxic people is very important. This is because they may be what’s in your way when you’re trying to find a solution to a difficult situation.

Odds are there’s someone toxic sitting next to you right now and you’re not even aware of it. If you don’t feel happy, maybe you should start trying to avoid these seven types of people in your life.

1. Toxic people: the opportunist

Woman in a toxic relationship

There are many types of opportunists, but we’ll focus on the two that are most common: manipulators and those who want pity. The first takes advantage of their social status, skills, or abilities in order to make you feel inferior or dependent on them. Consequently, they may adopt a dominant attitude to get you to fulfill their wishes, even if you don’t want to.

On the other hand, people who seek pity want to tap into your empathy. They try to get you to help solve their problems for them, or compel you to help. It’s never wrong to help a friend who’s going through a difficult time, but it’s important to be wary when it becomes too frequently.

2. Those who avoid responsibility

A person who is unable to recognize their mistakes or places the responsibility and blame on others is a person who has a negative influence on your life.

Not only are they able to transmit that kind of attitude, but also, at some point, you’re likely to become their victim. These people are typically immature and lack the ability to face their own challenges or hardships.

You should try and get away from them as quickly as possible, odds are they’ll load all of their problems and responsibilities on you.

3. People who don’t like you

Girl rejected by a group of girls

There’s a chance that someone may not like you without even bothering to get to know you. This may be because of  your lifestyle, your personality, or any other personal quality. In order to change that, some people go to all sorts of lengths to impress someone. However, the other person often doesn’t even notice.

There are others who may simply resent your presence. You shouldn’t look for ways to make everyone like you. You just need to focus on the people in your life who want to be there, unconditionally.

Read more: Resentful People Never Forgive or Forget

4. Those who can’t leave their comfort zone

Maybe you’re the sort of person who wants to lead a life that’s filled with adventure and new experiences. If that’s the case, then it’s best to set aside those who aren’t willing to leave their comfort zone. Such people are afraid of everything, and, because of that, they’ll try to instill that fear of the unknown into you, as well.

5. People who point out your flaws

Bullies at school

Everyone has flaws and, sometimes, if someone points them out, it will help you to overcome them and improve yourself.

There are those who expresses their concerns honestly and in a constructive manner. But, on the other hand, there are those who use your weaknesses as an opportunity to attack you.

Maybe you know someone who is quick to point out and criticize your mistakes. Neither do they ever seem to recognize your accomplishments. Well, they’re the type of toxic person who is likely to eventually wear down your self-esteem.

6. People who fill you with doubt

Sometimes you need a person by your side to help point out the risks associated with certain situations or activities. There are toxic people who only seek to sow the seeds of doubt and block the desires of others, however.

They typically live their life in fear, staying in their comfort zone, and they want others to be that way too. That’s why they might try to sabotage your actions, add to your insecurities, or fill you with negativity.

Read more: Break Out of Your Comfort Zone, It Could Be the Best Decision Ever

7. Lazy people

Lazy person watching TV

Laziness is a highly contagious condition. When you’re surrounded by people who are lazy, sooner or later it will catch up with you. Even the strongest of people can fall into this trap when they’re constantly around those who don’t see the need to get anything done.

Interactions with lazy people who drag out all of their projects can cause your own productivity to decrease.

Once you’ve identified any of these types of toxic people in your life, then it’s a good idea to start avoiding them to keep them from negatively influencing your decisions, work, or pleasure. It’s not always easy to overcome their forms of manipulation, but it’s far healthier for your overall emotional balance.

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