7 Things You Should Never Tolerate in Your Relationship

06 November, 2018
It's essential to learn to identify these toxic behaviors that you should never tolerate in your relationship. Otherwise they can become consistent and destroy you psychologically.

Today we want to highlight 7 things that you should never tolerate in your relationship. It’s important to recognize these toxic behaviors right from the start.

When we make the decision to be in a relationship with someone, we usually seek to build an experience full of emotions and happiness.

The attraction and affection we have for our partner should encourage us to improve ourselves and over time allow us to feel complete.

At some point, we’ll inevitably have to face difficult situations. Although relationship problems can strengthen bonds, they can also determine whether or not we truly want to stay in the relationship.

Ups and downs are normal, of course. Yet it’s important to be able to recognize certain toxic behaviors and actions that you should never tolerate in your relationship under any circumstance.

So-called “emotional predators” are all over the place, and unfortunately, we often fall prey of their game until we reach terrible situations.

1. Control

7 Things You Should Never Tolerate in Your Relationship

When you accept being in a relationship with someone, you want to share your life with that person. But you shouldn’t allow them to take total control over you.

If you allow them to tell you what to do or not to do, how to dress or which friends to spend time with, it’s likely that over time they’ll think they have total control over your decisions.

Continuing this type of relationship can destroy your self-esteem and your freedom to develop your own personality.

See also: The Best Advice for Raising Self-Esteem

2. Aggression

Physically or emotionally aggressive behaviors are something you should never tolerate in your relationship under any circumstance.

Verbal attacks, pushes, and in the worst case scenario, physical abuse, are sufficient motive to decide that this person shouldn’t be in your life.

If someone attacks your integrity because they don’t like certain things in your life, or because they think they can solve problems that way, things can get worse.

These partners are manipulative and, given that they know your weaknesses, they’ll look for ways to convince you to stay with them.

3. Lack of trust

7 Things You Should Never Tolerate in Your Relationship

One of the basic virtues of any relationship is trust.

This ingredient allows both partners to feel sure about the person they’re with, even if they can’t always be together.

Lack of trust, whether in both partners or just one, will lead to suffocating jealously and constant arguments.

4. Emotional blackmail

The sorts of people who tend to manipulate their partners usually analyze their emotions in depth so they can use them for blackmail later on.

In general, they try to build a concept of toxic love, in which all their actions and behaviors are validated because “they love you.”

It’s very important to be strong when facing this kind of blackmail, because any sign of weakness will allow them to feel they have the control.

5. Taunts about your appearance

7 Things You Should Never Tolerate in Your Relationship

We all have physical flaws, which can make us feel insecure and create issues in our relationships and social environments.

However, when we share our life with someone, we want that person to help us minimize what we don’t like and encourage our self-esteem and self-confidence.

If a partner makes jibes about your body, pressures you about your weight or tries to destroy you by emphasizing your defects, leave them.

You aren’t obliged to comply with their beauty stereotypes, and even less so to please someone else.

6. Lies

Lies are another thing you should never tolerate in your relationship. They’re one of the greatest enemies of relationships, not just because they affect trust but also because they become tools for manipulation.

Although it may be inoffensive to tell the occasional white lie, allowing this to become a way of life can destroy the relationship completely.

Lies tend to be interpreted as infidelity, and when they’re frequent, they can serve as a trigger to realize that this person isn’t who they say they are.

We recommend reading: 8 Lies that Happy People Refuse to Believe

7. Putting you down

7 Things You Should Never Tolerate in Your Relationship

Sad as it may seem, some people give everything to make their partner happy and, in exchange, only get put down and humiliated.

If your partner doesn’t value who you are, tries to make you feel inferior or ridicules you in front of others, the best thing you can do is leave them as soon as possible.

Allowing them to behave in this way will make them feel superior and that they have the right to attack you whenever they want.

Have you noticed any of these behaviors that you should never tolerate in your relationship? Watch out!

Don’t let the situation get the better of you, because you might regret it. Your relationship should be respectful and should offer you all the necessary components to feel happy.

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