7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship

Communication with your partner is key. If you don’t feel like you can share your problems with your partner, things may have already taken a turn for the worse.
7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship

Last update: 16 November, 2019

Being in a relationship can make you feel complete, motivated to face any of the challenges in your daily life. This is especially true when you can maintain that “spark” of love and passion that’s usually present in the first few months, for the long term. But we should always be aware of the signs of an unhappy relationship.

Time always works against us, and if you both fall into a monotonous relationship routine you might find that you’re not getting what you once did out of your union. That’s why so many couples today end up failing, without understanding why.

Staying in a relationship that’s not making you happy is a mistake. Ans if you’re not careful it can keep you from living life to the fullest and finding the kind of love that will make you happier.

There are certain attitudes and feelings that will become noticeable when love is running out or you’re no longer happy as a couple. Knowing how to recognize these signs of an unhappy relationship is very important – it can lead to you being able to end the relationship or doing something to rekindle your love.  

1. You no longer have a physical or emotional connection

Lack of connection is one of the signs of an unhappy relationship
Do you have trouble communicating like you used to? Have you lost your desire for your partner? Is the affection absent? When these things start to happen it’s a clear sign of a weakening or tired relationship.

The loss of that physical and emotional connection, even during intimate moments, shows that you’re no longer happy as a couple.

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2. You compare your present to your past

Most couples can agree that their early weeks or months were the most exciting, when passions were high and there was the initial excitement of the conquest.

But you can’t pretend like it will stay that way forever. Eventually, you’ll reach a comfort zone where the only way to escape is to make the decision to make a change.

On the other hand, you may find yourself wishing your partner was the way he or she was back in the beginning. This is one of many signs of an unhappy relationship and may need more attention from the one you love.

3. You expect your partner to change

Arguments can be a sign of an unhappy relationship
Falling into the trap that you believe a person will change their nature and conform to what you expect from them is a serious mistake that can destroy a relationship.

If you fell in love with them the way they are, why would you want to change them now? If this is happening, it’s likely that you’ll both be happier with someone else.

4. There’s no communication

Losing the desire to confide in your partner is one of the biggest signs of an unhappy relationship and is practically a death sentence for the couple. Communication is one of the keys to a happy and healthy relationship, and when you lose that quality it can lead to countless problems.

Do you no longer feel comfortable sharing your feelings? Do you spend time around each other and hardly talk? Is your partner becoming boring to you? A positive answer to any of these questions is a clear sign that you’re unhappy.

5. Everything they say and do irritates you

Irritation is not good in a relationship
It doesn’t matter if it’s done with the best intentions. You find your partner irritating and you end up feeling angry at them.

This is something that can cause the relationship to end on a very sour note. If you disagree with their way of being, it’s time to take a step back and think about what you want in a life partner.

6. You avoid one another

Your partner might be calling you, asking you to go places, or trying to find any excuse to be with you…but you’re looking for an excuse to avoid them.

When you lose interest in spending time together and prefer to engage in other activities like spending time with friends, watching TV, or just being alone, you may be unhappy in the relationship.

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7. Not making an effort to improve things

If your relationship has taken a downturn and you’re both unhappy, there are two options: 1) close this chapter of your life, or 2) fight to revive and rediscover the union you once had.

But if you don’t feel like putting forth the effort to fight and you’re willing to try and make things better, it’s a sign that it’s time to put an end to your relationship. On the other hand, being intentionally positive, recognizing their achievements and sharing feelings and good moments can help bring a relationship back to life.

In conclusion, a positive attitude is fundamental to having a happy relationship. As one study showed, women whose husbands have a good attitude had fewer conflicts with their partner.

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