6 Situations In Which You Shouldn't Have Sexual Relations

03 September, 2020
Sexual relations should be satisfying and beneficial for both parties in a couple. Any time this isn't true, we need to think about if it's good to do it.

Sometimes, sexual intercourse is definitely not recommended. As much as you want to do it, you must control yourself and learn to say no to avoid damaging your health. And what moments are those? We’ll discuss them in detail below.

1. Sexual relations are painful

A woman in pain after sex.

Pain during sex is also known as dyspareunia, which could be either superficial or deep. In any case, it can be really uncomfortable.

In the case of women, this could be caused by organic issues:

Pain during intercourse could also be caused by psychological issues, such as trauma, insecurity, lack of desire, and problems within the relationship or sexuality. Thus, if you’re a woman and feel pain during sex, you should go to the doctor and get a checkup to see what’s up and how you can treat it.

Men can also feel pain during sex, but this is less common. The main causes include infections, cuts, and wounds in the genital area, which could also be caused by sexually transmitted diseases. Just as the case of women, regardless of the cause, it’s a good idea to see a specialist about it and then follow their instructions.

Thus, before you try to have sex with your partner just to please them, even if you feel pain, see your doctor. The professional must do an evaluation and, once they have the diagnosis, will be able to indicate what the appropriate treatment is.

Remember that sex is a game, and both parties must enjoy it equally. Thus, if one is in pain, you shouldn’t continue until the problem is solved.

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2. Sex during menstruation

There are a lot of doubts about this question, as there are divided opinions. On one hand, some affirm that people shouldn’t have sexual relations during menstruation since the risk of contracting infections and suffering discomfort is greater. On the other hand, some affirm that it is possible but with precautions.

The experts at Medical News Today comment that sex during menstruation is risky.

  • If both parties are healthy, use a condom, and maintain proper hygiene, there are no real contraindications, especially in monogamous relationships.
  • Keep in mind that blood can cause discomfort. Thus, it’s necessary to talk with your partner and be very honest about it.
  • If you have several partners, you shouldn’t have sex during menstruation since, during this phase, it’s easier to spread an infection through the blood.

3. If you have a urinary tract infection

A woman with a uninary tract infection.

Women with urinary infections will hardly be able to have sex and, if they do, it won’t be satisfactory because they’ll experience discomfort.

In this sense, you must remember that, since the vagina is so close to the urethra (both are divided by just one muscle), during the sexual act itself, there may be trauma to the urethra and this causes pain. Mainly when you exert a lot of force or have rough sex.

Therefore, you should keep in mind that both force and roughness are factors that can cause lacerations in the structure of the urethra and make any discomfort much more intense.

For all the above, it isn’t advisable to have sex during the treatment of urinary tract infections (which lasts three days at most). You must be patient and resume your sexual activity when your health has already been restored.

4. Sex with a low immunity

Any person with a suppressed immune system, or who has a low immunity, is at a higher risk of contracting infections with any kind of sexual contact, and specially sexually transmitted diseases.

The primary reasons for low immunity are:

  • HIV
  • Pregnancy
  • Using corticosteroids

In these cases, you shouldn’t have sexual relations with untrustworthy partners. If you do, you should always do so using protection.

Other, less severe diseases, like the flu or dengue fever, also require special attention during sex, as the physical effort could strain recovery. Also, simply being unwilling to have sex because of your condition is reason enough not to have sexual relations.

5. During high-risk pregnancy

A high-risk pregnancy.

This is still a taboo topic for a lot of married couples. Primarily, during the third trimester, when the abdomen has grown considerably, some people are afraid of hurting the baby or breaking the amniotic sack too soon. However, it’s important for you to know that penetration isn’t enough to reach or damage the baby.

During pregnancy, hormone changes could actually increase one’s sexual desires, which could even further strengthen the ties between the couple at this time.

There are many recommended positions and guidelines to consider for safe sex during pregnancy. Of course, you shouldn’t have sex if your pregnancy is high risk, since you don’t only put the baby at risk.

If you’re going to have sex during pregnancy, you should avoid positions where all the weight is on the belly.

6. Without appropriate personal hygiene

If there isn’t personal hygiene before and after sex, the risk of catching diseases increases considerably.

A lot is said about intimate hygiene after sexual intercourse. However, some people don’t take this too seriously and have sex without implementing the corresponding hygiene and protective measures.

Substances like sweat, fluids, and secretions are more plentiful when someone doesn’t clean themselves properly, which increases the risk of catching different types of infections.

Also, some microorganisms can normally exist in a person’s body but be harmful to another. This exchange could be problematic. Although using condoms reduces this risk, this isn’t the only measure you should take.

You need to clean up immediately after having sex.

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You want to have sex but have doubts? Consult your doctor!

Some situations make you wonder if it’s possible or not to have sex without creating more problems. If you’re living any of those situations, we recommend that you wait.

If the doubts persist, it’s best to consult your doctor and also have good communication with your partner.

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