6 Situations In Which You Should Not Have Sexual Relations

December 12, 2018
Sexual relations should be satisfying and beneficial for both parties in a couple. Any time this isn't true, we need to think about if it's good to do it.

Sexual relations should be satisfying and beneficial for both parties in a couple.  Any time this represents a problem, we need to think about if it’s a good idea or not.

In addition to relieving stress, having sex helps burn calories, and it will connect you to your partner, giving you much more pleasure.

And if that weren’t enough, sex has been scientifically proven to be great for mental and physical health.

But there are definitely times when having sexual relations is not an option, and no matter how badly you want it, you need to control yourself and learn to say no.

There are moments in life when you shouldn’t have sex, as it could be harmful to your health. Avoid any of the following situations:

1. Sexual relations are painfulPelvic pain

Pain during sex is also known as dyspareunia.

This could be caused by organic issues, such as bacterial infections, wounds to the vulva, and endometriosis.

Pain during intercourse could also be caused by psychological issues, such as trauma, insecurity, lack of desire, and problems within the relationship or sexuality.

Men can also feel pain during sex, but this is less common.

The primary causes include infections, cuts and wounds in the genital region, which could also be caused by sexually transmitted diseases.

Whatever the case, regardless of the cause, it’s a good idea to see a specialist about it.

So before you try to have sex with your partner just to please them, see your doctor. Let him/her evaluate the problem and tell you what to do.

Remember that sex is a game, and both parties must enjoy it equally.

Check out:

11 Causes of Pain During Sexual Intercourse

2. Sex during menstruation

There are a lot of doubts about this question. But the answer is easy: if both parties are healthy, there are no real contraindications for this, especially in monogamous relationships.

Some people do feel uncomfortable in the presence of blood, however, in which case you need to talk to your partner and be very honest about this.

If you’re not in a stable relationship, you should not have unprotected sex, as this is an easy time in which infections can spread via the blood.

3. If you have a urinary tract infection

Vaginal infection

It’s hard for women with a urinary tract infection to have sexual relations, and if she does, it’s not satisfying.

Because the vagina is so close to the urethra (the two are divided by a mere muscle), the act of sex can actually irritate the urethra.

This happens primarily when the sex is very forceful or fast. This could cause lacerations to the urethra.

It’s not recommendable to have sex during treatment either (which lasts around three days, so it’s not too much to ask).

Don’t forget to check out:

6 Remedies for Urinary Tract Infections

4. Sex with a low immunity

Any person with a suppressed immune system, or who has a low immunity, is at a higher risk of contracting infections with any kind of sexual contact and sexually transmitted diseases.

The primary reasons for low immunity are:

  • Using corticosteroids
  • Pregnancy
  • HIV

In these cases, you should not have sexual relations with untrustworthy partners, and you should always do so using protection.

Other, less severe diseases, like the flu or dengue fever, also require special attention during sex, as the physical effort could strain recovery.

Also, simply being unwilling to have sex because of your condition is reason enough not to have sexual relations.

5. During high-risk pregnancy

Pregnant woman at a doctors appointment

This is still a taboo topic for a lot of married couples. Primarily, during the third trimester, when the abdomen has grown considerably, some people are afraid of hurting the baby or breaking the amniotic sack too soon.

It’s important that you know that penetration is not enough to reach or damage the baby.

Hormone changes could actually increase one’s sexual desires, which could even further strengthen the ties between the couple at this time. Just remember that there are a lot of recommended postures when the woman is pregnant.

That being said, you should not have sex during a high-risk pregnancy. You should also avoid positions that put too much weight on the abdomen.

6. Without appropriate personal hygiene

There’s a lot of talk about personal hygiene after sex, and a lot people ignore the fact that you shouldn’t have sex if those areas are not clean. Sometimes spontaneous sexual encounters can spread very strong viruses.

Substances like sweat, fluids, and secretions are more plentiful when someone doesn’t clean themselves properly, thereby leading to infections.

There are also microorganisms that can normally exist in one person’s body, but which are harmful to another. This exchange could therefore be problematic. Using condoms reduces this risk.

You don’t need to wash up immediately before having sex.  Just make sure that you have taken care of basic hygiene.  

If you have the opportunity, or if you prefer, taking a shower with your partner helps light a spark, and prevents any kind of risk.

Be aware of situations when you should not have sex

Couple in the shower

Some situations make you wonder if it’s possible or not to have sex without creating more problems. If you’re living any of those situations, we recommend that you wait.

Trust your medical specialist, and most importantly, your partner.

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