Raising a child isn’t easy. They don’t come with a manual that tells you how to raise them into becoming a happy adult. That’s certainly what we all hope for and what every parent wants for their child.
We make mistakes and sometimes don’t even meet the expectations we set for ourselves. We may fear that we won’t be able to respond to the child’s needs throughout their life. However, one thing is clear: it’s not about being the perfect parent. It’s simply about being a good parent, guide and source of support.
We can’t obsesess about solving every problem our children may have. Sometimes it’s better to teach your children strategies and ways to accomplish things for themselves and find their own solutions. That’s why words are key in raising children. Today, we’d like to show you the most appropriate words that every child needs to hear.
Putting your trust in your children is essential for them to develop a sense of security and autonomy. We’ve already talked about the risks of overprotectiveness on our site before, a learning pattern that prevents children from having their own learning experiences by controlling almost all aspects of their lives.
The phrase, “I trust you” should be impressed on them at an early age to teach them responsibility and that they have your unconditional support to start making their own decisions.
“How do you think the other child feels when you make fun of them?”; “Feel for the other person when you treat them badly”; “Feel your own happiness when you manage to do something for yourself”; “Feel your own well-being when you hug your grandparents and tell them that you love them”…
Life isn’t just thinking about what want and what we don’t have. It’s not about “accumulating things”, but about feeling good with what we do every day, enjoying our friends, family and pets… Children need to learn early on the importance of “feeling your life to the maximum, with happiness and integrity”.
Our children should learn at an early age the importance of understanding others and putting themselves in the other person’s shoes. It’s vital that the intellect is balanced with emotional intelligence. Life isn’t just about understanding educational concepts like knowing how to multiply or understanding the ideas in a text book.
We also need our children to understand the complex world of emotions, to respect them and how to express them appropriately, to talk about how they’re feeling, and express their needs and concerns.
“Share your happiness, form positive relationships with those around you, sharing what you have and accepting the kindness of others.” If we instill this essential concept into our children, we’ll prevent them from becoming egotistic and thinking only of themselves and putting their needs ahead of others.
If they learn to share, they’ll have more secure and closer relationships with others, they’ll have better friends and form healthier relationships.
In order to raise happy children, not only do you need to teach them to love and care for those around them, but it’s also vital to teach your children to learn to love themselves. Self-esteem is really important for maturity and security.
Loving yourself and being able to show love to others is, without a doubt, a foundation for developing emotional intelligence. Therefore, don’t hesitate to instill these words in your children every day. Love, trust, understanding and knowing how to share are bridges to growth so that they’ll grow up to be happy adults.
Raising children is a daily adventure that should be approached with patience, dedication and love. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes: no one is perfect when it come to giving advice or serving as an example. What’s important is that our children always know that we love them and that we support them in all that they do.