5 Traits of Irresistible People: Are You One?

· December 20, 2016
Irresistible people have problems just like everyone else, but they know how to confront them with a smile and a positive attitude that spreads to all who surround them

We all know what irresistible people are like and how they make us feel. They have something: a light, a charisma and charm that goes well beyond physical appearance.

At first we may think that someone is born with this ability to attract others, and that the attractiveness of their ways of treating others and gestures come naturally.

But that’s not how it is. In these days of “coaches” and gurus capable of guiding us with numerous competencies to better succeed in our daily lives, we can’t forget that being irresistible is directly related to emotional intelligence.

At the same time we need to make it clear that this quality has nothing to do with physical attractiveness. There are influencing factors that are profound, interesting and go way beyond a face or a body.

We are talking about how we interact with, treat and even inspire others.

We’d like you to know the characteristics that define these kinds of people.

1. Irresistible People Know How to Connect With Others

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Travis Bradbery is one of the authors who has sold the most books about emotional intelligence.

All of his writing has a concrete purpose: teach people various abilities so they can feel more successful and happy.


You might also think that irresistible people are able of connecting with others because they have an inexplicable “something” that lets them.

This “something” is actually a series of characteristics that can be learned. They are:

  • Empathy. They value the person they are speaking to.
  • Irresistible people are emotionally open and treat people with warmth.
  • They transmit confidence and security.
  • They are able to make the person they are with feel special.

Also read Having Faith Doesn’t Make Things Easier, it Makes Them Possible

2. They Understand Dignity and Respect

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Irresistible people attract others because they treat those around them with the same respect as they have for themselves.

  • They do not expose vulnerabilities, intimidate, put up walls or use the selfish language of sarcasm.
  • At the same time, they understand that everyone needs to be treated with dignity. When there is respect, people “blossom” and offer the best of themselves.
  • We’ve all noticed it once. When someone treats us well and values us, it motivates us to give our best. It gives us strength.

3. Protect Your Personal Boundaries

There is something that we like to see in others: knowing how to respect the time and private space of others, understanding everyone’s personal boundaries and being conscious of them.

  • There are those who feel they have the right to interfere in our affairs, ask for favors and invade the space where each one of us cares for our self-esteem and inner balance.
  • Irresistible people, however, protect, defend and respect you. They will never get angry if one day you say no, “I don’t feel like going out today” or “I don’t share your opinion.”

They know how to show an invisible respect without words that fills a relationship with harmony in which we feel supported, valued and even protected.

Also read With Time We Learn to Love More, but Fewer People

4. They Have A Positive Outlook On Life

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  • When we say positive, sometimes it’s a double-edged sword. There are people who are unrealistically positive and think that things work out on their own, or that good things happen if you wish hard enough.
  • Not irresistible people. They understand that life is about struggle, effort and overcoming obstacles.
  • Everything they do shows a positive attitude that is fed by hope, courage and enthusiasm. 

Their energy and vitality is contagious.

We also suggest reading 7 Keys to Resilience: Courage Comes from Within

5. They Are A Light In The Storm

They give us encouragement, light and motivation. Irresistible people make the difficult seem easy and have a humble heart that soothes us without asking for anything in return.

  • To be a light in the storm takes will, above all.
    It also means being willing to see possibilities where others only see problems, courage to break boundaries and to do the best for the common good so that everyone wins and no one loses.
  • It’s not easy. It’s not at all simple to have an attitude about life in which one recognizes him or herself in others to bring about this common good, this tolerance of others that is so needed these days.
  • Being irresistible may be a big challenge in our daily lives, but it is worth putting into practice.
    To do this, start by caring for yourself and following this personal growth that little by little lets us offer our best to others by being happy ourselves.

Because when one is satisfied with one’s self and is happy, it’s apparent. That’s when this magic is contagious and one becomes irresistible to others.