Sex. It’s hard to talk about it sometimes. Plus, sometimes there are more myths than truths are floating around about the subject, fed by shame and embarrassment.
What happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom, out of respect for the other person. A positive sex life mostly comes from discretion and fun.
Here, we’ll give you some tips to make it even better.
1. Take advantage of the power of food
Your diet is a very important aspect here. If you eat a diet with certain foods in it, you’re guaranteed a good sex life.
- Chocolate is one of them. Why? The cacao in it improves your mood, since it releases endorphins. Also, it’s a classic gift for that special someone, so it does double duty.
- Another one is garlic. Here’s a tip: brush your teeth after eating it. It’s considered an energizing food, since it contains high levels of vitamin B and C, so it’s good to eat daily in small doses.
- Oysters also act as an aphrodisiac. When it comes to seafood and the subject of sex, oysters are famous. The zinc in them improves testosterone production.
- Cucumbers may not be your favorite food, but you can’t deny how much it has to offer here. They increase blood flow to the genitals, which of course is very important.
- And if you need energy, avocado is for you. It provides vitamin D and E as well as endurance to anyone who eats it.
2. Use romance and all it has to offer
When it’s not a one-night stand, sex in a relationship can get a little routine or even boring. However, foreplay can go a long way if you start to see signs of getting into a rut.
Here, romance and sex are separate and while they’re related, they don’t always go together.
In this case, we advise paying attention and collecting details about what they like and what increases their pleasure, so the sexual dynamic will be better. Getting to know them will give you two more of a connection.
3. Enjoy it and don’t worry about the time
One of the main frustrations in a relationship centers around how long the act lasts. But there’s no reason to worry; it’s all in your head. The site Medical Daily published a study that says that it’s all quite relative.
The study showed the duration of the act to be an average of a little less than six minutes. Plus, according to a survey done by Penn State University Erie, that fits into a range that’s considered fine.
4. Embrace surprises!
Going off script doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Sometimes it’s much more enjoyable if you improvise a little. Role play, wearing costumes — things like that as part of your intimate time can increase pleasure.
When you experiment, over time trial and error will sort everything out. Then you can add things that didn’t use to be part of your norm, trying other ways and opening up to other options in the relationship.
Opening your mind to new positions may end up meaning more pleasure for both people involved. Use your imagination. Invite your significant other to have sex not just in the bedroom, but other places too…maybe even “off limits” areas!
5. Don’t forget the little things at the end
There are certain norms we have at the end of a sexual encounter.
Some mistakes we need to be careful about not making. For example, saying thank you after orgasm. It’s not like they’re providing you with a service, after all.
Another no-no is to talk openly about past partners. It’s awkward and you should just keep it inside. Don’t disrespect the person that’s right there in bed with you.
Sex burns about 80 calories per half hour
A study in the New England Journal of Medicine says so, putting an end to the popular belief that it added up to 300 calories. Not that 80 isn’t an encouraging number, but just to clear up the issue.
Don’t stop going to the gym, since sex doesn’t make up for exercise. Unfortunately, doing it won’t make you a fitness model, but it will help to burn some extra calories!