5 Things that Cause a Relationship to Deteriorate

07 October, 2020
There are many false beliefs surrounding love and these become things that cause a relationship to deteriorate. Taking them into account and trying to resolve what may be damaging the relationship will be essential in order to keep it healthy.

There are many things that can cause a relationship to deteriorate and can end it. However, being aware of them will help you to resolve the situation intelligently and prevent things from going further and harming you as a couple.

Today, you will discover up to 5 reasons why a romantic relationship can deteriorate, and we will give you some advice on how to resolve the situation. In some cases, continuing could be worse because it could cause things to end very unpleasantly.

5 Things that Cause a Relationship to Deteriorate

1. Lies

Lying in a relationship is one of the main reasons things fall apart.

No relationship, whether it be a that of a couple, friendship or family, can be sustained if it is based on deception. This causes more distrust and can cause jealousy and insecurity in the other person.

We’re not only talking about infidelity, but about things as important as not saying what you really think.

You have to be transparent. This person is your partner, after all, with whom you are intimate.

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Many times, we lie because that is how we have learned to relate to others. Other times, we have insecurities that we do not want to show.

In both cases, being self-critical and solving the problem will be essential so that your relationship will not continue to deteriorate.

2. Sexual dissatisfaction

Beware of those who say “sex is not everything in a relationship.”

It is true: it isn’t everything, but it is an important part of one. If it’s not addressed, this can generate arguments, tension, discontent and even grudges.

Nobody likes not being satisfied sexually. It puts you in a very bad mood.

The best way to solve it?

Talk with your partner, try new things, but, above all, intend to solve the problem.

Doing nothing, getting angry and not communicating calmly is not a solution. This will only make things worse.

Going to a therapist or a sex therapist can help. However, you have to leave shame behind.

3. Family

Family can generate many conflicts.

For example, parents who are always calling or who come at home without warning or who try to organize the couples life thereby taking away their autonomy — all this can affect a couple’s relationship.

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The way to solve this is by communicating with your partner and coming to an agreement about boundaries. These are necessary, especially with families that act like this. It is not a bad thing; quite the opposite.

Many times, the reasons that a relationship deteriorates lie in the inability to set boundaries with family members.

Read: How to Leave a Toxic Relationship

4. Insecurities

Having had previous experience with infidelity or having certain insecurities can make us overly jealous and try to control our partner. This is not a good thing. You may overwhelm the other person, keep them from feeling free and, over time, this will undermine your relationship.

You need to realize that you are being too concerned with who your partner is talking to and who they are going out with. Remember that sometimes, you get angry if they go out with their friends and not with you.

Let’s not forget that each person must have their own space.

Insecurities can be worked on not only in couples therapy, but also individually, since this is a personal problem. Over time, one person being very insecure, jealous and possessive will cause the relationship to deteriorate, and it will not end in the best way.

5. Common Goals

Love cannot overcome everything.

If you want to follow a path that does not agree with that of your partner, it would be better not to continue together since you cannot share a common life plan. For example, having children or not, living in another country, working abroad …

If you want to have children but your partner does not, you cannot expect this to change. The same goes for if you want to live in Australia, but your partner does not want to leave this country.

You cannot cast your goals aside, nor allow the other person to drop theirs for you.

In these cases, your paths must separate. After all, waiting for the other person to change is another thing that deteriorates a relationship.

There are many false beliefs surrounding love and these become things that cause a relationship to deteriorate. Taking them into account and trying to resolve what may be damaging the relationship will be essential in order to keep it healthy.

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