5 Things You Should Not Allow in Your Relationship
It's okay to give your all so long as the other person responds in the same way. Never push aside family or friends for your partner. Ask yourself if the person you are with provides you peace and harmony; if he or she is someone with whom you want to grow old.
Nothing is more intense and rewarding than being in love, having someone as a partner who loves us and to whom we can give our love. But we must be careful and not fall into the trap of giving absolutely everything for that person… So, we will explain what elements you must protect above all others in your relationship.
Facets you must protect in your relationship
1. Do not give “everything” if you never receive “anything” in return
This is a very common error in relationship: to love someone is to open up all our emotions without any limit, giving it “our all” for passion and true unselfishness. And this is good, without a doubt. So long as the other person responds similarly and shows us that all our effort is worth it, that every gesture is reinforced by a sincere love where there is no selfishness. If we give our all without receiving anything more than demands or criticisms, there will come a time when we feel frustrated and very empty. This feeling is very destructive and we must keep it in mind. Love, share, give… but remember that you also deserve to receive the same.
2. Do not destroy your self-esteem or your values
In a relationship it is common that there are different likes, interests and even values. But as long as there is respect and recognition, it will work. You may allow your partner, for example, to enjoy spontaneity, recreation, going to parties… but you may also need this time to be shared with you. At the same time, you deserve to ask your partner once in a while to give you some time that is more relaxing or even some intimate time at home. There must be a balance. But if the other person criticizes us because we are not “very much fun” or party lovers, then we will feel bad and start to doubt ourselves. Am I really a boring person? Maybe I am a person that he cannot be happy with? Such questions can really damage your self-esteem. Our partners must respect us and value us. It is essential. Without respect there cannot be happiness.
3. Do not let anyone invade or destroy your personal space
We all have our hobbies, our friends, our passions… things we cannot give up. Never push aside family or friends for your partner. Do not give up everything you love for your partner, because if you do there will be nothing left for you and you will lose who you are, your identity. Personal space is that intimate space where our personality, our social life and our passions are located. Do not overlook this.
4. Do not destroy your dreams and hopes
Sometimes we maintain close relationships with toxic partners. People who clip our wings and tell us, day after day, that we are not capable of doing this or that. That we are not smart enough to do a certain activity, that we will never get the job we crave because we are not good enough. Personalities that day after day keep clipping our wings and our aspirations, making our personality just a shadow where we barely have spirit or energy. Do not let this happen.
5. Do not allow yourself to become an unhappy person
This is most important. When you get up each morning ask yourself if you are happy. Ask yourself if the person next to you is the one with whom you want to grow old, who will accompany you in your maturing years and who will live with you in harmony and peace. If it gives you confidence, wisdom and dreams, do not hesitate; this relationship is worth the effort and you must fight for it. But if you feel empty and perceive that this partner does not make you smile but makes you cry and you live your days with such sadness, you should act. You deserve to be happy. It is the fundamental right of every person.