5 Subtle Ways to Damage Your Emotional Well Being

· January 4, 2017
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Your emotional health is like a delicate sheet of glass that can be cracked with the slightest touch. It doesn’t matter how you appear on the outside, how much you smile, or how often you say “I can withstand anything,” or “of course I’m fine.”

A person who appears to be outwardly strong can actually be hiding a complex inner world. Stronger people also easily tire of being so because deep within them, that sheet of glass is cracked or shattered.

Fortunately, your emotional well being can be repaired. If you fill each day with love and focus on that delicate sheet, the sun will shine on you and encourage you every step of the way.

In today’s article we’re going to propose the following: that you make a good emotional contract with yourself. Every good contract involves fulfilling a commitment.

This one will involve prioritizing yourself a little more, listening, setting boundaries, and feeding your own self-esteem. These things are easy to put into practice, and it only requires the will and courage to do so.

It’s also important to be able to detect the point at which your emotional well being is violated. We’ll explain this in more detail below.

1. Fatigue that discourages you and puts you in a bad mood

There are many types of fatigue. Physical exhaustion is related to short-term efforts or can be maintained throughout the day.

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You can also experience mental fatigue. Something as common as paying attention for a long time, meeting your goals, or being in a demanding situation can deplete you.

In this case, when we’re talking about emotional health, there is also a kind of fatigue that has nothing to do with physical effort.


  • Anxiety based on unhappiness that builds up in your body and is not addressed. Sooner or later, it’s absorbed by your subconscious.
  • Letting yourself be led by the will of other people without defending your needs and rights can also wear you down.
  • Accumulating disappointment after disappointment, feeling sorrow, and not knowing how to cope will eventually lead to exhaustion.

There’s no doubt that these are indicators that you must consider when it comes to your emotional health.

2. Saying “yes” when you want to scream “no”

Everyone does this to a greater or lesser extent. People conform to the opinions or desires of others to fit in and belong in an everyday context.

  • Doing this from time to time to achieve social balance won’t have extreme consequences. The problem arises when this behavior becomes the norm, to the point that you begin leading a life that’s totally opposite of what you desire.
  • Self-affirmation doesn’t mean that you’re acting selfishly or with arrogance. Saying “yes” without fear and “no” without guilt is necessary for your emotional health.

3. Emotional bonds that you have not yet broken

There are times in your life when you’ll seem to be happy and successful in everything you do. But you still feel a void, a thorn in the flower.

Things as common as not having to let go of your emotional past can prevent you from moving forward.

  • Having unresolved problems with your family and holding onto past relationships in spite of them being over are bonds that cause a lot of pain.
  • To take care of your emotional health, it’s necessary that you effectively close these phases of your life. To achieve this, you must first know how to forgive.
  • Although offering forgiveness isn’t easy, it is essential. Remember that built up hatred, resentment, or sorrow only ties you even more to your past. You become a prisoner of your memories.

3-feather-in-light4. Living in a reality that doesn’t make you happy

Maybe it’s at work where you don’t value yourself or feel fulfilled. It could also be with your friends, a person in your family, or your partner.

  • Every day you try to convince yourself that you shouldn’t feel this way. After all, “no one is hurting you,” and “everyone respects you.” Nevertheless, you aren’t happy no matter how hard you try, and the mere desire to change will not rid you of that feeling.
  • If this is what you’re experiencing right now, stop and evaluate your situation. You can’t move forward when you don’t feel fulfilled.

5. Your emotional health is affected when you’re your own worst enemy

Emotional well being isn’t just affected by how the people around you treat you. Sometimes you can sabotage yourself, harming yourself in the following ways:

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  • When you don’t value yourself and constantly compare yourself with others.
  • You sabotage yourself when you postpone your dreams, when you say “I can’t,” or “I don’t know,” or “My ship has sailed.”
  • You feel hurt when you see problems where there should be solutions. When you see the end of the world instead of a new beginning.
  • You attack your emotional health as you continue to nurture a toxic relationship instead of having the courage to say goodbye.
  • You become your own worst enemy when you don’t love yourself the way you deserve to be loved, and when you focus only on your mistakes and failures instead of relying on your abilities.
To conclude, remember what we said at the beginning: make a positive emotional contract with yourself where your task each day is to care for your self-esteem and build your own happiness.

It’s worth starting today!