We’ve written a lot about every type of toxic person that might be in your life. But what if the toxic person is you?
A person is one who intoxicates themselves, causing their own damage.
It’s always easier to see the flaws in another person, but perhaps your relationships or other people are causing you harm because you’re letting it happen.
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Maybe your actions and the decisions you make are more negative than you think. That’s why today we want you to discover the five signs that you might be turning into a toxic person.
1. Staying with someone who hurts you
Why do you keep a person by your side who’s causing so much damage? If you allow it to continue, it’s not that person’s fault—it’s yours!
You may not be meant to live together, or maybe you’re not compatible because you don’t share the same view of the world or the same values. Despite their contempt, you keep them by your side.
When you behave this way, you’re the toxic person. Perhaps not with respect to others, but certainly to yourself.
You’re not caring for yourself or protecting yourself from that toxicity that has permeated your relationship. More damaging, you defend the person by your side who you know is destroying you.
2. Blaming yourself for mistakes
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. That’s why it’s important to start seeing them as learning opportunities and then move on.
If you’re not able to do this, and you constantly berate yourself for the mistakes from your past, you’re hurting yourself and preventing yourself from moving forward.
Clearly you’ve become too much of a perfectionist, demanding too much of yourself.
You’ve become so rigid with yourself that any error, however small, will be something very serious for you.
Learn to accept your mistakes and to not blame yourself for them. Being wrong is something positive, so don’t give your mistakes that toxic power.
3. Suppressing your emotions
Thanks to the reality of life, you might have gone through some complicated relationships in which you’ve withstood a lot of damage. This may have caused you to hold back your emotions in order to protect yourself.
What you don’t know is that this is much more toxic than you think. If you ignore your emotions, repressing and imprisoning them, more negative ones will come to the surface.
You have to learn to express them without fear because in this life you have to take risks. Emotions are just like wishes and desires—they exist to be transmitted.
If you suppress your emotions, sooner or later they’ll consume you. You’ll turn into a sad person who’s unable to love or be loved. You don’t deserve that. Express what you feel.
4. Being pessimistic
Life isn’t always easy, but adopting a pessimistic attitude is one of the worst things you can do. This will be reflected in your persona and you’ll give off this feeling to others.
No matter how difficult your life is right now, a pessimistic attitude won’t make it better; indeed, you’re almost certainly going to make things worse.
Pessimists and whiners are among the most toxic people. Do you really want to be one of them?
Let optimism be your best friend and prevent you from intoxicating yourself.
5. Letting others always come first
Thinking of yourself doesn’t make you a selfish person, but rather someone who loves themself and protects themself in this way.
We’re used to being told that we have to always be concerned with the welfare of others, but what about ourselves?
When you change your attitude, you might look like a selfish person to others, and you might even feel like one too.
But what you don’t know is that you’re becoming a less toxic person.
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One day you yourself might turn into a toxic person without even knowing it. You don’t realize that toxic people not only affect those around them, but also themselves.
Learn to check yourself, and don’t be afraid to discover things about you that you might not like. We all make mistakes, but it’s in our power to fix them.