Difficulties will always surprise you over the course of your life. To face them, it’s a good idea to build your resiliency.
Resilience is nothing more than your ability face the challenges of life. The better your resilience, the more fortitude you’ll have for facing all of the problems you can encounter.
But how do you build resiliency? How do you become strong?
This is something you can learn with experience. However, today we’re going to help you by giving some keys that will help you do it much easier.
1. Crises aren’t insurmountable obstacles
Many times, building resiliency costs us a lot because we see crises as insurmountable obstacles.
However, this means we aren’t living in the situation with the right perspective.
Do you really think that if you look back, the experiences that you thought you’d never make it out of weren’t as negative as you thought?
Ask yourself: do you always make a catastrophe out of your thoughts about the present situation?
If so, don’t let yourself get carried away by them. Strengthen yourself by putting some distance between you and your present worries.
You’ll see that there’s nothing that you can’t overcome.
2. Change is a part of life
Making decisions, changes… All of this is tough because we bet on the everyday and the routine. In other words, we bet on things that give us a certain amount of security and comfort.
However, when a problem blindsides us, our lives take a few steps back. We don’t know what to do. We find ourselves lost!
It’s important to stop seeing changes as something bad. We don’t have a reason to reject them or see them as something to be feared.
Changes can be more positive than we think. If you don’t believe it, remember an experience in the past when you went through change. Surely the change gave you, above all, a great lesson.
3. Take it as an opportunity to grow
Problems, difficulties, and obstacles aren’t as terrible as we imagine them. This can be a great opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself.
Who hasn’t discovered a part of their personality that didn’t flourish until they ran into a certain obstacle?
Seeing tragedies as true misfortunes is something that’s socially acceptable. However, what if we also took them as opportunities to grow as people?
We can build a more powerful resiliency thanks to other perspectives in the worst situations. Why make everything negative? There’s always something positive.
Will you learn to see it?
4. Accepting and controlling your emotions is very important
No one teaches you to manage your emotions. Because of this, we have problems with them. Sometimes we suppress them. Other times, we express them without any control.
Sometimes, our lack of knowledge makes us have excessive reactions and we don’t know how to control our impulses. This is especially true when it comes to identifying what we’re feeling.
This has negative repercussions on our relationships. It also undermines our self-esteem and causes a terrible feeling of being overwhelmed with emotions.
Practicing mindfulness, meditation or yoga can help you to see your thoughts and feelings. These practices help you to know them more, to dive inside yourself and, above all, become stronger.
5. Don’t forget about yourself
The best way to build resiliency is by taking care of yourself. We always tend to worry about others. However, who will take care of us?
Exercising, eating well make yourself a priority when you think it’s necessary and learning to say “no” are attitudes that appear to be easy. However, normally we make them a secondary or tertiary priority.
We don’t give ourselves the importance we deserve. This has consequences when we’re overwhelmed by a problem.
If we start to pay attention to ourselves, we’ll discover that we can keep ourselves together when life hits us. We’ll be prepared for everything. We’ll truly be strong.
Now that you know how to build resiliency, the important thing is that you start to make small changes in your life. This will make things go in your favor, not against it.
Sometimes, without noticing it, we go against our own health and well-being. We act based on inconsistent behaviors that carry us towards having a victim complex, drama, and low self-esteem.
This is the moment to turn all of this around. Start to see the positive in all of the negative and learn to be happier.