Moments of difficulty come knocking at your door without being invited, and what’s worse is that you are usually unprepared to face them.
Adversity can take on many forms. Sometimes even having the best support network or having read all the self-help books in the world is not enough.
Dark times require first and foremost the proper preparation, from which you can rely on your own resources, resilience, and emotional management.
Although you may have heard that “hardship is what prepares ordinary people to reach extraordinary destinations,” in reality all anyone ever wants is to simply “feel good, to feel a little better.”
Life will take you to those extraordinary destinations when it’s ready, but when you’re in the midst of times of difficulty don’t hesitate to repeat the following phrases.
1. I have the right to cry, but I’ll also smile again
An emotional release is essential to getting through an argument, a failure, an error, a hardship. Never hold your tears back or feel stupid for feeling dejected or lacking strength.
Remember, however, that this time during which you “embrace your demons” shouldn’t last too long. It definitely shouldn’t be permanent.
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Crying and the release of your sorrows have a very clear purpose: to help you accept what happened and to move forward, to promote change. You deserve to smile again.
2. The person who will help me the most during hard times is myselfYou might have amazing friends, a great partner, and a loving family that cares about you. That’s great, but the person who is able to cope with your difficult times is yourself.
Without the will, energy, or dreams it’s extremely difficult to escape from that dark room that you now find yourself in. Listen to those around you, let them help you, but you must set the gears in motion to move forward.
3. I can’t control my situation, only the way I choose to confront it
There are certain things that cannot be avoided: a loss, an illness, a breakup in spite of your best efforts…
- No one can 100% control these complicated circumstances that life occasionally brings you. Instead, however, you are responsible for your thoughts.
- Saying “I can’t” will completely immobilize you and bring on other negative emotions. Saying “I’m able to get through this,” on the other hand, completely changes your outlook and gives you renewed strength.
It’s worth remembering.
4. Life is lived beyond the line of fear
We’ve talked a lot on this page about your comfort zone. It’s that invisible space where everything within it is safe, known, and controllable.
In times of hardship you might feel like adversity has crossed that boundary and imprisoned you with its long fingers. The calm you once took for granted is now collapsing.
You have to escape from your fear and take a step beyond that line.
- If you’re afraid to think of what will happen to you after your loss, go to the other side, first accepting what happened and then remembering that life must go on – taking you with it. Get moving.
- If you feel threatened or you’re afraid to be alone, rationalize those fears by remembering the prior phrase that you are your own best help. Let your heart give you strength.
5. I need to cultivate peace and inner balance every day
You take care of your diet and your weight, and go to see your doctor for routine checkups. You take care of yourself every day and no doubt you’re exhausted when you finally go to bed.
Now ask yourself, when was the last time you took care of your emotions, your needs, and your inner peace?
This is a type of exercise that can also be performed every day. If you’re putting everyone else first, however, eventually you will neglect yourself.
When you focus all your efforts on accumulating or obtaining “things,” you lose the sense of what is true in life: your happiness and integrity.
- When difficult times arrive you need to be prepared, and there’s no better way than to cultivate your inner peace each day, strengthening your self-esteem and understanding of yourself.
- First and foremost, know that life flows like a river, constantly changing. Whether you like it or not, you must be a part of this fluid movement.
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To conclude, because none of us can know when those difficult times will come to test us, it’s important to always be prepared to rely on your resilience.
Anyone who wishes to see a rainbow must be willing to withstand the storm.