Difficult Times Can Make Me Bend, but I Won't Break
Although we don't see it when they happen, moments of hardship don't stop being fleeting. We must learn to deal with them when we get to them.
Difficult times come knocking at your door without being invited, and what’s worse is that you’re usually not ready to face them. Adversity takes on many forms. Sometimes, even having the best support network or having read all the self-help books in the world isn’t enough.
Although you may have heard that “hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny,” in reality, during tough times, all anyone ever wants is to simply feel a little better.
Life will take you to extraordinary destinations when it’s ready, but when you’re in the midst of times of difficulty.
An emotional release is essential to getting through an argument, a failure, an error, a hardship. Never hold your tears back or feel stupid for feeling dejected or lacking strength.
Remember, however, that this time during which you “embrace your demons” shouldn’t last excessively long. It definitely shouldn’t be permanent.
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Crying and releasing your sorrows have a very clear purpose: to help you accept what happened and to move forward, to promote change. You deserve to smile again.
You might have true friends, an understanding partner, and a loving family that care about you. That’s great, but the person who’s able to cope with your difficult times is yourself.
Without the will, energy or dreams, it’s extremely difficult to escape from that dark room that you now find yourself in. Listen to those around you, and let them help you, but you must set the gears in motion to move forward.
There are certain things that cannot be avoided in spite of our best efforts: a loss, an illness, a breakup…
- No one can 100 percent control these complicated circumstances that life occasionally brings us. However, we’re responsible for our thoughts.
- Saying “I can’t” will completely immobilize you and bring on other negative emotions. Saying “I’m able to get through this,” on the other hand, completely changes your outlook and gives you renewed strength.
Your comfort zone is that invisible space where everything within it is safe, known, and controllable.
In times of hardship, you might feel adversity has crossed that boundary and imprisoned you with its long fingers. The calm you once took for granted is now collapsing.
You have to escape from your fear and take a step beyond that line.
- If you’re afraid to think of what’ll happen to you after your loss, go to the other side, first accepting what happened and then remembering that life must go on—taking you with it. Get moving.
- If you feel threatened or you’re afraid to be alone, rationalize those fears by remembering that you’re your own best help. Let your heart give you strength.
You must take care of your diet and your weight, as well as go to see your doctor for routine checkups. Also, you must take care of yourself every day and, surely, you get to bed at night completely exhausted. Now ask yourself: when was the last time you took care of your own emotions and your inner peace?
If you always put the happiness of others before you own, you’ll end up devastated. In the same way, if you focus your efforts on “material things”, on accumulating or getting them, you’ll lose the sense of what’s authentic: your happiness and integrity.
When difficult times arrive, you need to be prepared, and there’s no better way to do it than by cultivating your inner peace each day, strengthening your self-esteem and self-understanding.
First and foremost, know that life flows like a river, constantly changing. Whether you like it or not, you’re a part of this fluid movement.
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In conclusion, since it’s impossible to foresee when those complicated testing moments may occur, the essential thing is to put in place the always effective mechanisms of resilience. Because whoever wants to see the rainbow must be willing to accept the storm.