Many people think that they’re just showing their partner how much they love them by being jealous. However, there are certain types of jealousy that are very negative.
We’ve all been jealous at some point.
If you have siblings, you’ve probably experienced that strange feeling as a child that your parents paid more attention to your brother or sister or gave them a certain amount of praise.
However, jealousy issues have commonly been related to love in romantic relationships. For instance, we believe that phrases like “if he gets jealous, it means that he loves you” are true.
However, although jealousy can be normal, it can make people make many mistakes blinded by this feeling that can damage their relationships. Do you want to know what they are?
1. They consume their partner
Jealous people are very insecure, and this causes them to try to control their partner at all times. They want their significant other all to themselves. They can not stand the thought of being interested in another person.
This can cause the other person to feel very depressed and want a little space in their relationship. This undoubtedly upsets the jealous partner.
And angering them can lead to an unwanted consequence: a breakup. However, jealous people don’t realize what the other person is feeling.
Their jealousy nullifies their empathy.
2. They continuously search for evidence
There’s something called the “Pygmalion effect,” which indicates that if a person believes that something is going to happen or acts as if it does happen then, in the end, it does happen.
This happens to jealous people who are continuously searching for a sign that their partner is cheating on them.
Any message or contact with someone can trigger a discussion full of criticisms and phrases like “you don’t love me!”
This type of attitude can cause them to end up finding what they were really looking for. It’s like their behavior is a call to make what they suspected happen.
3. They refuse to seek help
The negative part of jealous people and they believing that they’re normal or that they’re showing love for their partner is that they refuse to believe that they’re a problem in their relationship.
This causes the relationship to greatly deteriorate and, over time, the relationship ends up becoming very toxic for both parties involved.
Seeking help would be very positive. Hence, communication between the both partners would improve and the jealousy would be seen as unfounded beliefs and the result of unnecessary fears.
4. Jealousy does not disappear overnight
As much as a jealous parter in a romantic relationship says, “I’ll change,” the truth is that this is a process and it would always be positive to seek professional help.
Jealous people can make several promises when their overwhelmed partner threatens to leave them. However, you have to keep in mind that the process is going to be long.
You have to get rid of certain beliefs that have made jealousy “normal” in relationships and also take a look at all those fears and insecurities that cause them.
5.They explode suddenly
Jealous people are alway moody, because of their distrust. Hence, when they find any small piece of “evidence” for something, this can cause them to become jealous and unleash the anger they had been hiding.
In this way, when they have accumulated several moments of jealousy, in the less adequate circumstance they end up exploiting. Your partner does not understand what is happening and the situation gets worse.
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It would be positive for jealous partners to realize that the solution is not that their partner acts how they want them to act but it’s they who have to change their vision about relationship and jealousy.
This is the only way they can make the relationship healthy.
On the other hand, in most cases, too much jealousy in the relationship will lead to a breakup, since the situation will become unsustainable.