Five Mistakes that Jealous People Make

21 February, 2019
Although many of us believe that jealousy is synonymous with romantic love, the fact is that jealous people don't enjoy their relationships.

Many people think that they’re just showing their partner how much they love them by being jealous. However, there are certain types of jealousy that are very negative.

We’ve all been jealous at some point. If you have siblings, you’ve probably experienced that strange feeling as a child that your parents paid more attention to your brother or sister or gave them a certain amount of praise.

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However, jealousy issues have commonly been related to love in romantic relationships. For instance, we believe that phrases like “If he gets jealous, it means he loves you” are true.

However, although jealousy can be normal, it can make people make many mistakes blinded by this feeling that can damage their relationships. Do you want to know what they are?

1. Jealous people consume their partner

A jealous man.

Jealous people are very insecureand this makes them try to control their partner at all times. They want their significant other all to themselves. They can’t stand the thought of being interested in another person.

This can make the other person feel very depressed and want a little space in their relationship. This undoubtedly upsets the jealous partner.

And angering them can lead to an unwanted consequence: a breakup. However, jealous people don’t realize what the other person is feeling. Their jealousy nullifies their empathy.

2. They continuously search for evidence

There’s something called the Pygmalion effect which indicates that if a person believes that something is going to happen or acts as if it does happen then, in the end, it does happen.

This happens to jealous people who are continuously searching for a sign that their partner is cheating on them.

Any message or contact with someone can trigger an argument full of criticisms and phrases like “You don’t love me”.

This type of attitude can lead them to end up finding what they were looking for. It’s like their behavior is a call to make what they suspected happen.

3. They refuse to seek help

A woman saying no.

The negative part of jealous people and the fact that they believe that they’re normal or that they’re showing love for their partner is that they refuse to believe that they’re a problem in their relationship.

This causes the relationship to deteriorate and, over time, the relationship ends up becoming very toxic for both parties involved.

Seeking help is very positive. This way, the communication between both partners would improve and the jealousy would be seen as unfounded beliefs and the result of unnecessary fears.

4. Jealousy doesn’t disappear overnight

As much as a jealous partner in a romantic relationship says, “I’ll change,” the truth is that this is a process and it’s always be positive to seek professional help.

Jealous people can make several promises when their overwhelmed partner threatens to leave them. However, you have to keep in mind that the process is going to be long.

You have to get rid of certain beliefs that have made jealousy “normal” in relationships and also take a look at all those fears and insecurities that cause them.

5. Jealous people explode suddenly

A couple arguing.

Jealous people are always moody due to their distrust. Hence, when they find any small piece of “evidence” for something, this can make them become jealous and unleash the anger they had been hiding.

When they have accumulated several moments of jealousy, they end up exploiting in the less adequate circumstances. Their partner doesn’t understand what’s happening and the situation gets worse.

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Jealous partners should realize that their partner shouldn’t act how they want them to act. They’re the ones who have to change their beliefs about relationships and jealousy. This is the only way they can make the relationship healthy.

On the other hand, in most cases, too much jealousy in the relationship will lead to a breakup, since the situation will become unsustainable.

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